By The Wiz
Since we’ve been talking about anti-commercialism, it reminded me of a subject that I’ve been meaning to blog about for some time.
As I was picking my daughter up from a playdate a while ago, my daughter’s friend was dancing around in a Bratz outfit. Her mom commented that she hated that she had it, and I too, admitted to not being a fan of the whole ‘Bratz’ enterprise, myself. While I was inwardly wondering why her daughter had such an outfit, if her mom hated them, she answered my unspoken question - “What can I do? She saves up her allowance to buy the stuff.”
Allowance? At age 5? Turns out her 3 year old got one, too, contingent upon cleaning her room. Hence, her room was (almost) always clean. Am I missing something here?
I do not give my children an allowance. Neither DH or I ever had one growing up, and we both have a solid head on our shoulders concerning money. We have no credit card debt, and I have never received an overdraft notice in my life. Doesn’t that mean I’m headed straight to the celestial kingdom? (I wish!)
But I know an allowance can be a good thing. It’s a great way to make the concept of tithing more concrete than abstract, and it can teach impulse control. My children already know they can’t have everything (do you have enough money to buy that, Mom?) and that money is a part of that. Hopefully, they don’t think that if we were multi-billionaires that I would give them everything, though.
Do you give your kids an allowance? My in-laws know a girl who gets $500 a week! Wow. That’s more than my first few jobs ever paid me. Has it been a good thing? Do you give a lot? I am at a loss here as to what is developmentally appropriate and when to start. Or if it is developmentally appropriate and I should start. Or is it just bribery, and not in a good way? Or is it bribery, but yes in a good way? So you see my confusion? Are you feeling my pain? Are there any good books on the subject? HELLLP MEEE!!
There, the whining is out of my system. (And if you believe that……)
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