By The Wiz
Guest post by Susan M., who blogs at www.nine-moons.com and www.strangepulse.com.
My oldest son wears nothing but shorts. Except for khakis on Sundays
at church, he won’t wear pants. Period.
He’s never been able to wear pants one day and then shorts the next.
Years ago, he refused to wear anything but pants. It was all pants, no
shorts, no way. Then he switched to shorts, and now he won’t wear
anything but shorts. I could buy him pants. He won’t wear them.
He turns 18 next month.
My daughter, when she was small, would not wear denim, or anything
with any seams or tags that bothered her. My mother-in-law was always
buying her denim clothes, because it’s so durable. Eventually she
realized I wasn’t joking when I told her my daughter wouldn’t wear
denim and she should just save her money.
But my youngest son is the really weird one when it comes to clothes.
When he was a toddler, he refused to wear socks. He didn’t just not
like them. He was scared of them. Terrified! What do you do with a two
year old with a sock phobia?
You let him wear sandals a lot.
Once when he was three I decided I’d had enough, he was going to start
wearing socks. I took him to WalMart. He started looking nervous from
his perch in the shopping cart when he saw we were heading near to
where the boys’ sock aisle was. He was immediately suspicious.
“Where are we going? What are you doing?”
Thinking fast, I said, “We’re going to get you some robot feet!”
This was a kid who once spent three full days pretending he was a
robot, walking around with his limbs completely straight and talking
in a robot voice. A kid whose imaginary friend wasn’t a friend at all.
Instead, his imaginary friend was an imaginary New Dad. Which drove
his Real Dad nuts. Especially considering his New Dad was an
indestructible robot who was taller than 100 buildings, lived in
Tokyo, and was made of parts that knew how to go back together again
if anyone, like say a Real Dad, decided to dismantle him.
“Robot feet?” he said, doubtfully, but also, I considered, hopefully.
I began to get excited. This might actually work!
At the sock aisle, I quickly picked out some thick gray socks with
rubber on the bottom. Not your typical socks, I thought. They might
just pass for robot feet. I tossed them in the cart and headed for the
check out lane. Fast.
“If I wear robot feet, will I turn into a robot?” He asked me.
He so obviously wanted it to be true, what else could I say except, “Uh…yeah!”
At first he looked excited. But it didn’t take him long to realize if
it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. By the time I’d paid
for the robot feet, in his mind they were no longer robot feet, but
socks. And as such, a complete waste of money.
It wasn’t until a year or two later that we finally got him to wear
socks. My husband took him upstairs one day before church, sat on him,
and wrestled socks onto his feet. My husband came downstairs alone and
told us NOT to mention anything about socks. So we didn’t. We all
pretended we didn’t know he was wearing socks.
When we got to church, my son was very self-conscious. We passed other
people in the hall and he hid his face against me. “She’s looking at
my feet!” I had to give him my sweater, which he wrapped around his
legs. When we sat down in a pew, he’d wrap it around his ankles and
feet.
This kept up for weeks. He was actually wearing socks, but no one
could acknowledge it. Finally one day my oldest son got impatient,
waiting for him to get ready to go somewhere, and he said, “Just get
your shoes and socks on and let’s go!”
My youngest son looked devastated. He gasped, and turned to his
father. “You TOLD them?!”
Once he was over his sock phobia, he developed a fear of stairs. He
refused to go up any staircases, and steep outdoors ones (like where
my sister lived) freaked him out big time.
About a year later, he decided he would only wear camouflage pants. I
had to buy 5 pairs, and he wore them everywhere. Including church.
Now, he’s 14. He’s still a little weird about clothes. He’ll only wear
black. Black pants, black t-shirts. If all his t-shirts are dirty, he
won’t borrow a t-shirt from his dad unless it’s black. Dark blue? No.
Has to be black.
My kids come by all this naturally. I myself have only about 3 or 4
pairs of pants I’ll wear regularly. (And two of them are
pajamas/sweats.) We all have sensory integration issues. Don’t get me
started on what we all will and won’t eat.
Anyone else got kids with weird clothes issues?




Well…my little brother wasn’t afraid of socks, but he detested tags, seams…anything that rubbed the wrong way. (And don’t ever walk past him in a cashmere sweater…he has no sense of WHAT he is petting - it’s just soft. So…yeah, we all joked that we should warn his future girlfriends!) He decided that the seams in his socks were just awful…so he took a pair of scissors and cut the seams out of every pair of socks he owned. He cut a little wide, and they all ended up as legwarmers. My father’s solution? First, buy soft new socks. Second, help him put them on - brother lays down on the bed, Dad sleps the PEJEEBIES out of his sole (to numb it!!) and then slips the socks on. No problems…except the two guys trying to explain to my mother why my father was slapping his son’s feet every morning!
Comment #1 by TeahFebruary 18th, 2008 at 6:52 amYeah. My son won’t wear pretty much anything that is new. I have to bring his clothes home, wash them 40 times, maybe bleach them out a bit, and then he might… MIGHT wear them. New shoes are like acid to his feet. He will scream for days and days. He won’t wear jackets unless they are zipped all the way to the top. And he won’t wear them in the car - EVER. He won’t wear pajamas unless they are cotton knit and more on the tight side. Flannel pants and t-shirts are a huge no-no. We have just recently been able to get him to wear long sleeved shirts. That used to be off limits. Button up shirts are usually a no-go. I have more… do you want me to go on?
Comment #2 by MelissaFebruary 18th, 2008 at 6:57 amOh oh oh I can so relate to this. Having a daughter with major sensory issues well…
when she was lil I couldnt keep clothes on her..and socks they were the enemy…she did not wear socks as much as i tried till she was 5 and we live in Canada with COLD winters! She wouldnt wear denim, this one has sticked exceppt for a skirt. Elastic waists were hard too..materails for have to be soft like fleece etc..right now she will not wear a dress or skirt even to church..so I say as long as you are neat and tidy you are good to go. Mostly she lives in sweats, and tops…it is hard living with sensory children.
Comment #3 by HollieFebruary 18th, 2008 at 7:05 amNothing as cute or funny as yours but yes, my youngest daughter went through a long and arduous phase around the whole, “Too itchy, too tight, etc…” thing. Frankly, it was exhausting and rather frustrating! She eventually out grew the phase when we stopped going to bat with her on the issues.
Comment #4 by MaddisonFebruary 18th, 2008 at 7:07 amSusan, dh is 34 and he only wore shorts until about 1 yr ago when he became a manager and now he was to wear dress pants to work. But he still changes as soon as he gets home (sometimes he changes at work into his shorts). He’s been like that since he was a kid. We’ve lived in wa, ut, id and still even in the dead of winter when it’s freezing out and there is a foot or 2 of snow, he’s in shorts. My son(7) has a hard time with that, I let daddy wear shorts during the winter but he has to wear pants??? Doesn’t make sense to him.
Comment #5 by ModdyFebruary 18th, 2008 at 7:39 amThe only other strange thing, which really isn’t that strange is my daughter (4) loves belts, she would wear a belt with every outfit if i let her.
My 5-year-old went through a period about a year ago where he would only wear PJ’s or sweats. As soon as he got home from a public place he’d had to be dressed, the clothes went right off and the PJ’s went right on. Now, he won’t wear sweats because he loves his snow boots, and he doesn’t like the way sweats ride up over the boots.
Right now he will pretty much only wear jeans, with a few exceptions. He refuses to wear anything cordoroy, and he won’t wear anything that remotely resembles Sunday pants unless it is Sunday. I recently bought him some navy blue cargo pants–they are very rugged with huge pockets on the sides and things like that. He flat out will not wear them. He insists that they are Sunday pants.
There are other issues too, some sensory-related, but these are the main things we battle over.
Comment #6 by eljeeFebruary 18th, 2008 at 7:47 amMy husband also only wore shorts up until just these past few months. Of course he wore pants to church and work, but he wore shorts ever where else…even in the dead of winter. He would always get comments about why he was wearing shorts in the winter.
My oldest daughter went through a phase where she hated wearing her clothes when she was about 3. She took her clothes off everywhere! Including church! One time we were at McDonald’s playing on their indoor play equipment when a lady tapped my husband on the shoulder and asked,”Excuse me, is that your daughter?” She was pointing at our little girl butt naked on the play equipment! At first we were freaking out that maybe her clothes were up in the play tunnels somewhere. But our good little girl neatly put her clothes in the little shoes cubbies.
I think clothes issues are pretty common in kids. Most of them grow out of it eventually. Even if it takes them until their mid 30s!
Comment #7 by apple pieFebruary 18th, 2008 at 8:07 amMy 8 year old wouldn’t wear collared shirts. I finally got him to wear them to church, but flat out refused to wear them to school, claiming “they will laugh at me”! Man it starts early!
Comment #8 by LeiGulFebruary 18th, 2008 at 8:21 amMy second son spent an entire summer wearing only his spiderman outfit! My neighbors got a kick out of it, but it was frusterating to me. My daughter (4) would only wear skirts…no matter how cold it is!
I guess that I can’t complain about my son who INSISTS on wearing his spiderman pajamas with the webs under the arms every night…
Comment #9 by Andrea RFebruary 18th, 2008 at 8:34 amAnyone else got kids with weird clothes issues?
Hahahahahahahaha-HAHAHAHAHAHA HA!
Susan, this post just makes me love you even more. Beanie is just like your kids. If it’s not one thing, it’s another, and he absolutely has Sensory Processeing problems. I look at how awesome your kids are turning out, and it make me not worry if Beanie lives in his black velvet with pink flowers and rhinestone pants- yes, even to church.
Comment #10 by Tracy MFebruary 18th, 2008 at 8:49 amAck! When the kids were infants I got into the habit of cutting out all the tags and then carefully picking out any stray threads. I couldn’t stand the thought of them being tickled or poked all day.
It’s me. I’m the one with the phobia.
I cannot stand tags or that horrid plastic thread! I pick everything out of the clothes that MIGHT touch me. For whatever reason I can seriously feel the tiniest thing on my skin and it drives me NUTS! (a very short drive) I bought tag-less shirts…THEY LIE! They just paint the label in and after a few washed the paint gets all prickly… this is worse because you can’t cut it out!
I have those sticky lint rollers everywhere! (even in my car) I roll everything before I put it on, inside and out! If my own hair falls on my arm I go crazy!
Alright, there you go. I’m nuts.
Comment #11 by s'meeFebruary 18th, 2008 at 8:53 amA lot of my kids wouldn’t wear jeans as kids, but as teens that is basically all they will wear! Some of my girls would wear only dresses/skirts during their elem years. They now only wear them for church or other “have to” situations. My youngest will pick pink over any other outfit and tries to convince me it’s okay to wear the same outfit to kindergarten 2 or 3 days in a row, because “It’s my favorite!”
I won’t buy clothes for most of my kids unless they are with me so they can try it on to see how it feels, fits, looks, etc. I learned the hard way not to waste the money, because if they have something in their minds about something being itchy or uncomfortable, they will NOT wear it — no matter what. Frequently, the older kids’ opinions rub off on the younger ones. That is both good and bad!
I have my own picky issues on some things, so I try to go with the flow and let them express their own opinions and personalities — even though it is very frustrating at times.
Comment #12 by Michelle AMFebruary 18th, 2008 at 9:20 ams’mee- I can’t deal with my own hair tickling my arm either. We can be nuts together.
Comment #13 by Tracy MFebruary 18th, 2008 at 9:21 amMichelle, dd meets me at the dryer if she knows that her pink pants are in it. She thinks that she must wear them everyday. Though I think that she likes them so much because not only are they PINK she loves that they come with a really cool belt. She is currently going through the phase where she has to wear gloves at all times. They are the stretchy knit kind, but I did finally get her to see that she needs to take then off before she uses the bathroom and when it’s dinner time.
Comment #14 by ModdyFebruary 18th, 2008 at 10:05 amOh and I totally get the whole hair tickling my arm thing, that drives me batty.
I’m the only one in the family with sensory issues–I hate tags in clothes, tight-fitting things, etc. So far neither of my kids have had too many issues. Although lately my toddler likes to take off his pants and run around without them.
We’ve given up fighting my four-year-old on what clothes she wears. I used to try and teach her how to match stuff, and now we just let her choose. She’s really gotten into skirts since starting preschool, so she often wears things like red/blue striped tights, a denim jumper, and a blue/green striped turtleneck (that’s what she wore to church yesterday). Or other days she wears everything the same color. I hid away all her short-sleeve and summer clothes so she’s free to choose what she wants from her drawer (that makes it easier for me to not be involved). I’m sure someday she’s going to look at photos and wonder what we were thinking to dress her like that, but I just didn’t want to fight about it every morning.
Comment #15 by FoxyJFebruary 18th, 2008 at 10:18 amI’m convinced that everyone around us thinks that we are poor and struggling (which we’re not) based on the way my kids show up at church and school. For example, my middle schooler (the one with a whole closet full of stylish clothes) will rotate through the same three or four corporate-logo t-shirts day after day. She wears the same two pair of jeans until they start shredding. And it’s not because I’m choosing her clothes (I’m not).
But then, I figure, what can I say. What do you expect from a mother who can’t stand anything touching her face and a father who will wear the same black shoes day after day until they fall apart. We’re all probably on the Aspergers spectrum.
We had a houseguest for a while whose little son has sensory processing disorder and she has some sort of therapy she does with him that involves stroking him with a soft hair brush. I wish I knew more about it, since she said it really helps.
Comment #16 by ResearcherFebruary 18th, 2008 at 10:19 amI guess my kids are abnormal? They pick out their own clothes, and yes, we went through the only skirt thing, and the wear same thing day after day thing, but we’ve never had to deal with the tags, or itchy, or no shorts, or only this material, or only this color, or any of that.
Something new to add to my gratitude journal, because that would drive me crazy.
That being said, I do tend to got with 100% cotton for vampiress, she gets excema easily.
I have always let them pick out their own clothes when they got old enough,(2/3) and we’ve had some winner outfits, but I just tell people they dressed themselves, and let them run around in their raggedy skirt that’s ripping, while playing with the perfectly clothed/matching bow/matching tights children. I figure the kids don’t care at this point, and the more I can put off the whole “class distinction through clothes” awareness, the better.
Man, I hope that made sense.
Comment #17 by The WizFebruary 18th, 2008 at 10:49 amThis is too funny. My little brother would never wear pants until he had to for work. Well now he hardly ever wears shorts! Crazy how our kids do the things they do. My little boy would wear only underwear if I let him. He thinks clothes are yucky. I think it is too cold where we live to go without. So he is wearing clothes. And I am sitting here reading this neat blog site now. I was just introduced to it and it looks like a fun one!
Comment #18 by CLouwhoFebruary 18th, 2008 at 11:35 amMy husband hates tags also. I have to cut them out of everything. Like Researcher,my 9 yr. old daughter won’t wear the jeans I bought her for school, she will only wear those knit pants(I call them workout pants)that usually have jackets that match. It drives me crazy. I have a ton of cute outfits for her but she will only wear the knit pants with t-shirts you get when you play on a sports team.
Comment #19 by ValerieFebruary 18th, 2008 at 12:06 pmMy youngest though won’t wear button up shirts unless he has an undershirt on too. Socks used to bug him all the time but it hasn’t been an issue the last few months. He also doesn’t like tags. His pants can’t be too big, sometimes I will buy them a size bigger since they all have the elastic sizers in them now but he doesn’t like that either.
Silly kids…..
I also have bad sensory issues. As does my husband. It’s funny that his issues make him act out—IE, he’s hyperactive, whereas mine make me shut down—I’m, well, I think of it as lazy. But it’s not laziness. It’s a complete lack of will to move, or something.
At any point during the day, I’ll have at least 5 spots on my body that itch. Constant itching. Constant.
My husband’s good about giving me back scratches.
S’mee, you say if your own hair falls on your arm it makes you itch. I think it’s actually my arm hair moving that makes me itch.
Comment #20 by Susan MFebruary 18th, 2008 at 12:07 pmI have a lot of sensory things issues. All through elementary school, I couldn’t ever stand to wear jeans or cordoroy, because it felt stiff and seemed unbearably loud brushing together when I walked. I have photos of horseback riding in sweats like I always did… at 12!
Comment #21 by cchrissyyFebruary 18th, 2008 at 12:11 pmI can’t stand it when my hair falls down the front of my shirt and I can feel it there but I’m in public so I can’t go down and retrieve and just have to suffer through. Or down my back is bad, too, when it’s right where you can’t grab it.
Comment #22 by StarababaFebruary 18th, 2008 at 1:06 pmI scratch myself with a hairbrush all the time- is that not normal?
Comment #23 by Tracy MFebruary 18th, 2008 at 1:46 pmo.k. I have lost all decorum here (read TMI!) but I seriously have to leave the room and go find that stray hair, it makes me that nuts. Down the back, down the sleeve, down the front, don’t much matter to me, I am a total hick with this and HAVE to get rid of strays. Can’t stand hair on my neck or face, oy!
O.k. back to your regularly scheduled program.
Comment #24 by s'meeFebruary 18th, 2008 at 2:38 pmMy hubby takes off his pants as soon as he walks in the door…
maybe that goes with a different post
Comment #25 by LisaCFebruary 18th, 2008 at 2:41 pmHoly cow, Susan! And I thought my kids’ clothing choices were difficult to manage. Now I know they are nothing, and I have you to thank. So, thank you. But how cool that your kids know what they like and stick with it.
Comment #26 by cherylFebruary 18th, 2008 at 2:45 pmMy five year old son decided (when he was two) that he would not wear buttons. It’s been three and a half years now and although we can sometimes get him into button down shirts for church he avoids them like the plague the rest of the time. Also offensive are snaps and buckles. I hope he gets over this before too long because it’s getting hard to find non button pants that aren’t too horribly dorky looking!
Comment #27 by AmandaFebruary 18th, 2008 at 3:03 pmAmanda, Sears jeans and pants for little kids don’t have a working button/snap. They close with a slid thingy, like dress pants. They do though have the little elastic thing in the waist band with the button to adjust the waistband, though you could probably cut that off if needed.
Comment #28 by ModdyFebruary 18th, 2008 at 4:01 pmFwiw, I would wear shorts every day if I had that option. I have promised DW that I won’t wear them when it gets below 40 degrees - ’cause, you know, it’s worse to make your wife mad than be uncomfortable over pants.
20 years teaches you things.
Comment #29 by RayFebruary 18th, 2008 at 5:10 pmAt least your kids wear clothes. My two year old is studying the art of no clothes. embarressed the heck out of the deacons collecting fast offerings a few weeks ago. I think she also wants tattoos because as soon as the clothes come off she has to draw on herself with markers. Ugh!
Comment #30 by FawndearFebruary 18th, 2008 at 6:46 pmOur youngest is a marker maven, as well. Blood pressure pills are your friend.
Comment #31 by RayFebruary 18th, 2008 at 7:03 pmMy two year old hates to wear shoes. He can stand wearing the socks but gets mad about wearing shoes. After trying laced shoes, velcro shoes, which he would just pull off, we settled on a pair of imitation crocs. They are light and are the closest thing I could find to being barefoot. Also, he’s been dubbed “nature boy” as if we don’t check on him regularly when he’s going to bed, he will take off his pants as well as diaper (followed by throwing the diaper out of the bed) and then fall asleep naked from the waist down…perfectly content….
Comment #32 by KatieelFebruary 19th, 2008 at 1:03 amClothing issues: My daughter is in third grade. She has worn a dress to school every day for the past TWO YEARS. (And almost every day for the year preceding that). There was a brief period when we insisted she wear pants once a week, but we gave up on that misery (both us and her)inducing program.
She also purposely wears mismatched socks most days and has since she was three years old (almost six years!). About six months ago we had insisted on her wearing matching socks each day (we always insist on that for Church) and then her aunt & uncle gave her a pack of 3 socks that were designed to be complementary yet not matching. They meant well, and couldn’t have known the effect of their actions, but I could have died it was so frustrating.
I know that it doesn’t help to be frustrated with her. If I have made the decision to let her dress herself, then I need to let her dress herself, but it’s so hard not to be frustrated. I think part of it is the fear that something is wrong with your child. Part of it is the fear of how others might be judging you based on what your child does. Finally, there’s just the run of the mill frustration caused by the results of odd behavior: a) She doesn’t enjoy recess (hmm, it was 4 farenheit this morning, I wonder why), b) her underwear is always showing (modest sitting lessons haven’t taken), and c) getting ready to go sledding as a family is an occasion for fighting.
I think my daughter’s oddities are a result of a combination of factors: a) sensory issues (we had to cut out all her tags for years and she currently claims that she can’t wear jeans because they itch) and b) motor difficulties (it is very difficult for her to snap and zip her own pants) and c) being very feminine and d) enjoying nonconformism and the extra attention it generates.
I do not understand my child! When she gets sad, she claims that we make her be different and why can’t we let her be like all the other kids! Well, I am not the one who wears dresses everyday. I am not the one who wears mismatched socks. And true, I am the reason we have no TV, but I don’t see why this necessitates her telling everyone we don’t have a TV. I don’t think she should lie about not having one, but I don’t see why she announces it to people.
Okay, I guess I really needed to vent. Thank you.
Comment #33 by Pmom @ Chocolate and GarlicFebruary 19th, 2008 at 8:33 amI let my son and daughter dress themselves. I guide and consult when needed.
Comment #34 by roster007February 19th, 2008 at 9:56 amWhen my son was little (2/3 yo) he ALWAYS wore an orange constuction hat and carried around a stuffed bunny. Everyone knew who he was. One day he stopped wearing the hat and carrying the bunny and the haircutting lady would say, “Where’s the bunny?” We miss those days… he was SO CUTE! We once had a jag of “have to wear the Tigger costume all the time”. Thank goodness that was short-lived.
He always wore mismatched socks and I am okay with that. However it KILLED my mother in law that my kids never wear matched socks and NEVER looked like the kids in the ads from old navy or The Children’s Place. Oh well, they were happy and comfortable. (plus, that made my mil become the not fun Grandma who gives socks for Christmas, ha ha)
I have put my foot down for modesty issues, but, I don’t care that my 6yo girl still wants to wear two different colored socks. She tells me how they match her outfit… “this one is green like this green leaf here, and this sock is pink like the flowers here.” I LOVE her sense of fashion!
I’m delighted that she even wears socks because she went through a Won’t Wear Socks phase for a year or two.
Whenever my socks get washed, I end up with 5 or 6 socks and none of them match… sometimes I wear mismatched socks too!
Hey, I go by thickness!
Haha!
Pmom: if the socks are that big of an issue for you, I’d slowly phase out anything but one color sock. Choose a color, something easy to find in the stores, and stick with it.
My daughter could never match her clothes, either. Still can’t and has to ask me if she’s clashing. My husband was home with the kids when they were small and they never matched, ever. And that was from him dressing them, not from them dressing themselves!
Comment #35 by Susan MFebruary 19th, 2008 at 10:39 amMy DS hates anything pokey, scratchy, too tight, or too big. Hates wearing socks unless they are very tight (go figure?) and would not wear shoes or socks until he was about three. I forced him to wear at least crocs or sandles.
My DD doesn’t care if things are itchy, tight, etc. she just doesn’t like to wear what I put her in. She will NOT wear a coat. Or socks, usually. she is two, and likes to choose her own clothes. Especially her “pink puppy shirt.” If I put her in something, she will most likely undress herself, and put on something else. Usually without her diaper on. Good thing she is pretty much potty trained!
I used to fight them on clothing issues becuase I was worried about them being too cold, or worried that moms would comment on their lack of appropriate attire for the weather, or worry that they looked a little rag-a-muffin wearing the SAME things over and over (hey-they are always clean!) But I have learned that they are figuring out the consequences of their poor clothing choices. My son now wears socks and shoes that are weather appropriate. If he choosses to wear sandles when it’s cold, and we’re going out, he knows he is responsible for his feet and their comfort, and he better not whine about their being cold. He has learned very well that his choices (about clothing) matter, and that he can make good ones. He has also, I think, felt a little more independent. Which, in my book, is good.
Hopefully my DD will learn the same things. She tells us when she is cold, and we tell her, she should have let us put her coat on her. She is starting to learn… I think…I hope…she let me put her coat on her today. Progress!
As far as what my kids wear…I like that they pick their own clothes. I think it’s funny when they don’t match, or when they have mismatched socks. It’s cute. They are just little kids. They are not my personal accessories. Sometimes I have to remind myself that there is more to comment on than other people’s attire. There are more interesting things to do than admire people’s clothing, or accept compliments for my own, or my children’s. Clothing doesn’t have to be a status symbol. So I try not to worry about what other people think too much. I know that will change once DS starts school, because kids are mean, and I’m not sending him off to the slaughter–(although he does have very good fashion sense.) So I’m holding off as long as I can in having to care about the little things like if my DD wore the same thing for five days in a row. I do laundry every dern day anyway! Throw that “pink puppy shirt” in there with the rest!
whew–sorry that was a little bit long winded! I haven’t posted in a few days-the extra, extra long post must be some sort of a withdrawal symptom.
Comment #36 by mellocelloFebruary 19th, 2008 at 12:19 pmI still pick out what my kids wear everyday, so I have it easy right now. Our only weird thing is tags, which I hate too. I also hate putting denim on babies. People think it makes them look all grown up, but it just seems really uncomfortable to me. My son has the spidey pjs with the webs under the arms too! He still likes to wear them even though they’re a few sizes too small now, and show off his belly. lol Oh well, who’s going to see?
Comment #37 by snow whiteFebruary 19th, 2008 at 2:24 pmMy 5 yr old has been developing some of these issues this past summer and fall. It finally got so bad and out of control, I was having chest pain and panic attacks just anticipating what would happen on any particular morning while getting ready for school. As I was searching on the internet for seamless socks(by the way the best ones are the seamless crew socks from striderite.com)….I came across a lot of articles about sensory processing disorder. It was like all of his little quirks that I only considered to be weird things about him, turned out to be part of this sensory processing thing. Long story short, I took him in to see a pediatric occupational therapist. He’s seen about once a month and is getting better. His issues were with socks, shoes with ties, tags, button shirts, shirts with colars, jeans, loud noises like hair dryers or toilets flushing or cars going past him while he’s outside, brightness outside, and MANY MANY MANY more.
Comment #38 by BFebruary 19th, 2008 at 5:12 pmWow.
I feel lucky my kids don’t have a lot of these sensory issues; just the cut-the-tags-out thing every once in awhile.
My son won’t wear a button down shirt unless it’s to church, and even then, forget long sleeves.
My kids can wear anything they want, as long as they don’t leave the house. If they’re gonig out somewhere, my controlling nature just can’t let them be. This has already backfired on me and my children are still young. Now, it’s almost impossible to get them to pick out their own clothes. I would totally do it differently if I had to do it over again.
And I miss their old school. School uniforms rock! (we had dark green loose shorts with a slide clasp and a white polo shirt. No morning battles ever.
Comment #39 by meemsFebruary 19th, 2008 at 11:11 pmMy son can’t stand to have his sleeves touch his hands. This causes him to roll up his suit jaket at church, his sweater sleeves, everything. But he won’t roll them up to his elbows (which looks cool) he only rolls them an inch or two to the point where they look weird. I have finally convinced him that daddy doesn’t do it and neither do any big boys. He likes to look for other boys doing it but he hasn’t found any yet so he is pretending to believe me and is keeping his sleeves down when we leave the house. But he is still looking for further proof.
Comment #40 by LizzyFebruary 20th, 2008 at 5:04 amI’ve decided that all the sympathy we’ve expended over the years on pioneer children who “had to cross the plains barefoot” has been misplaced!
Comment #41 by Marjorie ConderFebruary 20th, 2008 at 8:04 am[…] Bear that in mind when reading my posts, the way I write it may not be exactly the way it happened but I like the story better this way. Besides, I’m a novelist, not an essayist. What do you expect? (There was some discussion on MMW about the following and kids here, I don’t think I chimed in then but I did know that Sean has some weirdness in this area. I just didn’t think it was quite this bad.) […]
Pingback #42 by Run Faster Than a Locamotive, Jump Tall Buildings in a Single Bound « Alison WonderlandApril 14th, 2008 at 8:00 pmMy 3 year son also has a phobia of socks and shoes we spend 30 min. to a hour every morning arguing about what kind of socks to wears. First its the long ones, then the black ones, but first we have to put them inside out. Heaven forbid they feel funny he always says. He doesn’t like the fuzzy part of them. So I bought dress socks,there smooth, but they still have the seam inside so those also go inside out. Now the other day he started in on his shoes- they are to tight, they are already 2 sizes to big. We went through every shoe he has, he won’t wear them any more. So I took him shopping and let him pick out the ones that he would wear- 4 hours later and 7 shoes stores( I am not kidding) we came home with cowboy boots and spider man socks. Lets see how long this will hold up.
Comment #43 by DonnaJanuary 28th, 2009 at 9:04 ammy 4 year old son will only wear 2 sets of clothes for as long as i can remember so every so often i go out and buy the same sets of clothes but bigger sizes up untill last week this was fine but he broke his leg a week ago and since then he has refused to wear anything at all yes i mean nothing at all !!! so as i write he is sitting in the lounge with a blanket wrapped around him!! if i try to get clothes on him he screems, crys and goes crazy untill i stop trying
Comment #44 by emmaFebruary 13th, 2009 at 8:48 am