By Heather O.
I stumbled across Adrianne’s Stay at home non-mom blog the other day. Interesting blog. I don’t agree with most of what she says, and even drafted an angry response to some of her stuff to be posted here. But I decided to let the post sit for a day, re-read it today, and now want to talk about something different. She has two posts that are particularly controversial, I guess you would say, and I was originally going to talk about her post “Stay at home mom=slave” . (No, that’s not meant in a cute, ‘I need to vent about my life’ way. She actually thinks we are slaves. Yeah, I know, whatever.) The post I wanted to focus on was the one titled Why I will never have children. She lists her reasons for not having children, and ends her post with this:
“After reading this the majority of people will scream that I am selfish, because our society has taught us that not sacrificing and having children is in fact selfish. Well I think it is more selfish to have children if you cannot take care of them properly, to fulfill your own needs, to live vicariously through them and so on. So before anyone calls me selfish perhaps they should examine why they had children themselves. Of course it was for selfish reasons as well. At least I am honest about being selfish and don’t try to give anyone a line like “I wanted to bring life into this world.””
Instead of drafting my own reponse, I thought I’d throw the question out to all you fellow slaves. Why did you have kids? What were your reasons? Did you do it because you felt it was your divine duty, a fulfillment of your divine heritage? Did you do it because holding your newborn nephew made you think it would be fun? Did you do it because you felt you had no choice? I’m interested. Tell me why you started your families, and don’t leave anything out. It can be for as many selfish or silly reasons as you want, because really, at the end of the day, I don’t think it matters why we chose to have a family, but rather what we do with the choice once that kid shows up. That’s just me, though. And what do I know? I’m just a stupid slave.
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