By Heather O.
This is a guest post by ddrplant.
Every time I try to read up on something (infant sleep is my latest research topic), I come away frustrated. Every book is written by some beloved pediatrician, who has a lot of experience (both with patients and their own children), and plenty of studies to back up their point of view… and they all say different things. I can’t please them all (obviously), so I end up in a frenzy of worry because I don’t know what to do. For example, either I’m ruining my baby because I let her cry or I’m ruining her because I’m not letting her cry. Everything I do is wrong. I know, I know… I’m supposed to just take bits of advice, what works for my baby, and leave the rest. But, I can’t. My mind is riddled with the books’ guilt-inducing statements of what terrible future awaits you and your child if you don’t implement their method.
I don’t think there is a one, true parenting method, but I wish the books would acknowledge this. But, I suppose that stance probably wouldn’t sell books. If any way is as good as the way they suggest, then why buy their book? Thankfully, I checked out these books from the library, so no cost there, assuming I get them back on time.
*sigh* I don’t want to read any parenting books ever again. They leave me with mounds of guilt and no solutions. Before I read, I had no solution, but I didn’t have any guilt either.
How do you balance what you know about motherhood versus what they tell you in the books?
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