By Heather O.
When I was in college, I had some serious goals. Well okay, maybe not super serious, but I had plans, places I wanted to go. I wanted to travel the globe. I wanted to change the world. I wanted to work in hospitals, to help the needy, and rock the healthcare industry. I wanted to do studies on stroke patients, on their swallowing problems, their speech problems. I wanted to work with trach patients and teach them how to breathe on their own, without use of a ventilator. I wanted to work with seeing eye dogs, therapy dogs, and revolutionize how speech therapy was done by using animals in my treatment sessions. Yes sirree, I had plans.
Fast forward a few years, and I still have plans. Goals, which we are told are always good to make. The goals I make now, however, are slightly different.
Here are the things to which I currently aspire:
I want all the contents of my fridge to be edible at any given moment.
I want my car to not smell.
I want my carpet to not look moldy.
I want my toilets to flush. All of them. (Yeah, still working on that one.)
I want my home to be wall-paper free. 2 rooms down, 1 to go–woohoo!
I want to make sure my 6 year old wears clean underwear daily, and doesn’t pick his nose on a regular basis.
I want my daughter to say “Momma”.
I want my dog to be less flatulent.
I want to pay back all our student loans before it’s time to retire on our 401ks that are surely worth 2 nickels.
I want to go an entire day without having to change my clothes because I got slimed by somebody’s tiny sticky hands.
I want to keep my closet clean (yeah, like that’s ever going to happen).
I want to spend more time in my son’s classroom so I can see who he is becoming friends with.
I want to take an hour or longer nap every single day (hey, it could happen!!)
I told a guy I dated once that I wanted to change the world, and wondered how I could do it. He just sort of shrugged and said, “Good luck. I think as you get older (yeah, he was SO MUCH OLDER than I was–a whopping 5 years my senior. Filthy cradle robber….) you’ll find that you want to mostly concentrate on changing your own little corner of the world. And that’s where you’ll find you can really make a difference.”
I suppose he’s right about that. Maybe my non-moldy fridge really can change the world. At the very least, I’m keeping the world safer from dangerous, unknown, mixed breed microorganisms. That should make y’all sleep much better tonight.




Some of mine?
I want someone to invent self-cleaning tile floors (carpet would be nice, too.)
I’d like my 5 yo to eat something else besides cheese, tortilla chips and honey nut Cheerios.
And my greatest goal? I’d like a husband who understands and accepts that it only takes 5 STEPS to the towel rack!! And it’s lower and more convinient than the SHOWER CURTAIN ROD!
Comment #1 by KrisOctober 7th, 2008 at 6:52 pmRight or not…I really want to slug your ex-boyfriend.
Comment #2 by LibbyOctober 7th, 2008 at 6:54 pmI find it incredibly telling of the busy life of a young family that maternal naps and clean closets are apparently a more distant dream than non-flatulent dogs and 6-year-olds with clean underwear. Because I played hooky today in order to quadruple my wardrobe by straightening and ironing the stuff in my closet, followed by a long nap, I am again in awe of mothers who do all you do.
Comment #3 by Ardis ParshallOctober 7th, 2008 at 7:03 pm“I want to take an hour or longer nap every single day (hey, it could happen!!)”
No. No, it couldn’t. But we all dream, don’t we?
Comment #4 by AnnetteOctober 7th, 2008 at 7:06 pmI love this post. I would say more, but my husband wants as one of his life goals to go to bed before 10:30. So I won’t. But my sphere of influence has definitely lessened since having children. Although I like to think that my daughters will grow up and change the world, so it’s like I did it myself.
Comment #5 by ThoraOctober 7th, 2008 at 7:19 pmI want to take a shower before noon every day.
I want a once a week housekeeper
I want my husband to have a job
I want to not have to worry that our 401K is worthless
I want to not have to worry about medical bills
I want to not have an anxiety attack when my kid pukes for the 50th time that month.
I want to have a home, that is ours, that we don’t rent.
I don’t want to have to keep telling my daughter, “we don’t have the money” when she asks for something simple like McDonalds night, with her school.
I want my minivan to always have gas in it.
I want my just graduated from highschool body back
*you know between the list and listening to the love being shown at the presidential debate i’m really quite depressed now.
Comment #6 by SarahOctober 7th, 2008 at 7:27 pmCurrent goals:
Getting my daughters to get along for one whole day.
Figure out how to get our bathroom shower fixed before we sale our house. Both goals seem like a dream in this wavering economy right now. (We’ve lived in the house over three years and have never used it because we tried to fix it ourselves and instead there is just a big whole in the wall because we got in over our heads.)
Lose 15 pounds without doing real exercise. I may have to really exercise and I don’t want too.
Keep my floors clean for at least 24 hours.
Comment #7 by LaceyOctober 7th, 2008 at 7:40 pmI guess it is the small things that make the most difference. I think it is some sort of butterfly effect. If I am in a good mood, then I might do something more positive that day which will lead to world peace at some point. We will see.
I want a bedroom that is clean for more then 24 hours and actuall is a bit romantic isntead of utilitarian.
I want all my bills paid up with a little extra to pay a sitter and go to a show every week.
I want to stop working totally and just stay home for a while.
I want my car to just hang in there a few more years.
I want the same student loan dream.
Comment #8 by KatieOctober 7th, 2008 at 8:05 pmIsn’t it nice to create a list? It somehow makes us more alike than different. My list:
I too want to just go and buy a new pair of jeans without a second thought to how much $$$ is in the account.
I want my sons to pass out of their dang IEP’s and not have to worry if they are at their peer’s ‘level’. And I want to rid the senseless guilt that overwhelms me (much sooner) when/if they don’t meet those ‘requirements’.
I want to lose weight by eating chocolate and whatever else I feel like, when I feel like it. (I can dream too right?)
I want to the road to home ownership (again) to be closer than it actually is.
I want a better relationship with my Mom.
I repeat the same student loan dream, which is only prolonged now as my hubby just started his MBA.
Well, I should sleep well tonight.
I am actually NOT depressed… it’s just that I am writing deep thoughts after 8pm. haha!
A good quote that I keep repeating to myself that I heard recently on the blogisphere…
“A little something is better than a perfect nothing.”
Comment #9 by 2boys1crazyMomOctober 7th, 2008 at 9:09 pmPerhaps that can keep assisting me in my ‘dreaming’ and look for the ray of sunshine amist the clouds.
I want my two year old to hurry up and potty train and stop leaving poo on her bedroom rug.
I want my baby to grow those top teeth in already so I can give him finger foods instead of having to spoon everything into his mouth.
I want my six year old to learn it’smuch more fun to play than it is to tease her siblings mercilessly.
I want to be able to retain the sweetness in my tone of voice and the nurturing feelings I have when I wake up refrehsed, all through the day until DH gets home to help.
I want to feel like no matter where a stranger looked, which corner they peekd into, which closet in my house, I’d have no messes worth being ashamed of.
Comment #10 by nosurfgirlOctober 7th, 2008 at 9:18 pmI want to find joy in the journey.
Comment #11 by Alison WonderlandOctober 7th, 2008 at 9:31 pmI want my home to be peaceful (ie, a modicum of organization instead of a haphazard junkatorium).
I want to eat real, whole food and teach my children how to discern good food from bad.
I want to get eight hours of sleep a night.
Oh, and one selfish thing - I reallyreallyreally want to go on vacation for my 10th anniversary. And I want a new washing machine. And a hundred thousand dollars. OK, three selfish things.
Comment #12 by BridgetOctober 7th, 2008 at 11:02 pmI’m a new follower of this hilarious blog. Here are mine.
- Be more active outdoors
Comment #13 by Debbie JoOctober 8th, 2008 at 6:38 am- Be more Oraganized
-(I changed to “I will” statements after this)
- I will be a more organized person
- I will clean/de-clutter something from my house daily
- I will not be comfortable in my misery
- I will be happy and surround myself with happy people, and not let myself be the friend that everyone dumps their problems on.
- I will think positive
- I will stop making excuses when I want to change or fix something in my life
- I will organize and prepare healthy meals daily
- I will set aside an hour each day for myself (read, work out, nap)
Amen Alison Wonderland. I want that joy plus a dose of hope along the way.
Comment #14 by ZinkaOctober 8th, 2008 at 6:43 amHeather, I see you gave up the realistic goals you used to have to the unrealistic ones you have now. (although changing your dog’s food isn’t a bad idea. Sure you never thought of or tried that, so I thought I’d throw it up against your non-wallpapered walls and see if it sticks as much as your children’s hands.)
I want to find a job I an do until I retire.
I want my son’s mission prep stuff to get done so he can get his call.
I want my six-year-old to stop acting like a sixteen-year-old. (daughter, of course)
I want those I love to smile more often - and laugh regularly.
I want to embarrass my children more often in front of their friends.
I want my youngest daughter to keep asking for a blessing instead of ibuprofen. (melts my heart every time)
I want my wife to be able to work wherever she wants to work, simply because she wants to work.
I want my kids to know I love them even when I’m telling them to quit acting like buttheads.
I want my wife to be able to stop and smell the roses.
You know, the easy stuff.
Comment #15 by RayOctober 8th, 2008 at 6:52 amI want my hubby to be done with school already.
Comment #16 by ModdyOctober 8th, 2008 at 7:35 amI want to be done doing daycare.
I want my house to stay clean for more than 2 seconds.
I want ds to “get” the idea of why a clean rooms rock.
I want dd to be dry through the night.
I want to have a peaceful home.
I want the kids to stop trying to find things to fight about.
I want a home that gets magically decorated for each and every holiday, and then magically disappear after the holiday is over. (come on it could happen)
I want my hubby to be happy in his job so we can quit spending money moving to a new job.
Comment #17 by mormonhermitmomOctober 8th, 2008 at 7:42 amI want my kids to have what I had growing up - a back yard of their own in a home of their own.
I would like to see what that light at the end of the tunnel is instead of just extending the tunnel
I want my husband to get a job offer
I want to get pregnant
And now for my wish list:
I wish I had the money to redo my whole wardrobe in J.Crew
Comment #18 by CatherineOctober 8th, 2008 at 8:37 amI want grass in my yard that *isn’t* full of biting ants, so that my baby can actually play in it.
I want to never see a cricket or cockroach in my house again.
I want dishes that don’t get hotter than the food that’s on/in them when they’re used in the microwave.
I want to get in the habit of doing dishes and laundry more often than once a week.
I want my teeth to never have another cavity.
I want my baby to learn to fall asleep without crying every single time I put him in his crib.
I’d love to have the three bedrooms in our home clean and organized, with shelving in one of them so we can actually have some storage space.
Comment #19 by kaduseyOctober 8th, 2008 at 8:39 amI want my house to sell.
I want to pay off this mortgage.
I want to be “a little bundle of energy” that “cannot stand a messy house.”
Comment #20 by The WizOctober 8th, 2008 at 9:46 amWe blessed our baby girl last month, and I CLEANED my house, and made some new rules. So with the exception of the boys’ room, which is cluttered with toys, it has actually managed to stay pretty clean — as in, if my visiting teachers call and ask if they can come over in 20 minutes, I can actually say “yes.” And one to two hours on Saturday gets it back to sparkling status. I don’t know how ling it will stay like this, but for now, that eradicates a good 85% of what would be my list. But here’s the remaining bits:
I wish Diet Coke was fortified with calcium and other vitamins so I could call it “healthy”.
I wish my almost-three-year-old would show even the slightest interest in the toilet.
I wish my lawn would mow itself, and that the morning glory would mysteriously disappear by next spring.
I wish the check would come so we can get our food storage in order.
I wish my MIL would start acting like a grown-up.
Comment #21 by teresaOctober 8th, 2008 at 12:17 pmI want to thank everyone on this blog for making me feel like I’m not alone in this big test! Wish list:
Comment #22 by KateOctober 8th, 2008 at 9:05 pmI wish my daughter could adjust to high school smoothly.
I wish that I could go home for Christmas.
I wish it were spring again so I don’t have to deal with day light savings time.
I wish that I could be a stay at home mom.
I wish that I could give all of you your wish list too.
Thanks again!
Love your goals. I have many of the same.
And about changing the world? You’re doing that by raising children.
Comment #23 by KarleneOctober 11th, 2008 at 10:43 am