This is a guest post from Lacey.

Dear Mormon Mommy Wars,

This is two part question

First, how often do you bathe your children?

This might seem odd, but I only bathe my girls, five and three, twice a week, more if needed because of dirtiness, necessity, or if we’re going somewhere special. I homeschool and we live in the southwest, so we stay inside a lot. Now that’s it’s becoming cooler, we’re outside a little more and I will be bathing them more like three or four times a week. I am very content being inside, though, and thus my girls usually play inside also and don’t get particularly sweaty or dirty.

I don’t see a need to daily bathe my children, like I know many people do, because they don’t produce body odor and are fairly clean. I let them take long baths twice a week and I do spit baths and cleaning in between them. They are well groomed and don’t smell. As they are getting older I am finding that I need to bathe my oldest more, and I am trying to get in the habit. Since I let them take such long baths, it’s sometimes hard to fit it in with running around, cleaning house, making dinner, and watching Dancing with the Stars. ;)

This said, am I totally nasty for only bathing my children twice a week?

I have a friend who only bathes her daughter twice a week, so I know I’m not alone in this.

The second part of the question is about blog etiquette.

I recently did a post and said the following, as it went with my story and is why I’m wondering if I’m totally oblivious about how often to bathe my girls.:

They need a bath ’cause it’s that time of the week, they get baths twice a week unless something makes them unusually stinky. I just don’t see the need to bathe my children every day when they’re little and don’t produce body odor and it can be a big chore. Just see it as one way I’m conserving water for our drought ridden valley.

I have a pretty private blog which mostly friends and family read, but I got an anonymous comment reading:

Really - twice a week? That means they bathe like 8 times a month. That’s pretty nasty.

I suppose I was really annoyed at this for two reasons: One, being I see no problem bathing my young, non smelly, children only twice a week. Two, it was anonymously said and I felt harshly judged by a complete stranger.

The troll, as my husband and I call her/him, did log onto my site tonight, coming from a friend’s site, so I’m pretty sure it’s not a friend.

So, if you’re a lurker and you have a harsh opinion of a blog you’re lurking on, would you anonymously post a hurtful comment or is that just bad blog etiquette?

I lurk on blogs of people I know, and don’t know, and even when I think they’re total idiots for thinking/doing something I never make a comment out of courtesy.

I hate that the comment is getting to me, but I also am wondering if I’m just a very oblivious mom for only bathing my daughters twice a week and if I’m right to be hurt by such harsh judgment by someone who obviously doesn’t know me or my children personally.

How often do you bathe your children, and how do you handle harsh comments in your blog?