By Heather O.

Hold to the Rod—James Christensen
Hat tip to my friend Sariah, who, if truth be told, I was going to name my daughter after. I love the name Sariah, and I love my friend. My family talked me out of it, though. I’m still not sure I’m okay with that….
I think Mr. Christensen meant this painting to be a depiction of pride. Or not first seeking the kingdom of God. That we get caught up in collecting riches of the world that we forget about, or are too burdened, to hold to the Iron Rod.
I mean, I think that’s what he was trying to convey. But I’m not art major or anything.
Still, I can’t help but think—anybody feels like this depicts motherhood pretty well?.
As mothers, we’re too busy holding on to diaper bags, backpacks, permission slips, dirty dishes, and wiggling toddler who won’t wear shoes (so we’re holding them too) that we forget how to hold onto the Iron Rod.
I’m not saying that motherhood takes away from the straight and narrow path. I’m saying that sometimes, personally, I allow the daily pressures of being a stay at home mom to distract me from what I should be doing first–seeking first the kingdom of God. My hands are full all the time—too full, sometimes, for what I’m supposed to be holding.
Thoughts on this? What does that painting make you think of?
Anyway, off to pick up my son from the bus, and to hold his backpack, and to read his homework, and to get him practicing on the piano, and to sign his permission slip, and to make bread for his lunch tomorrow because they’re going on a field trip, and to change the laundry, and to get chicken defrosting for dinner, and to find that coupon for Oreos because they are ON SALE at Target.
(What can I say? Some things are harder to let go than others
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I love this picture, and I understand what you are saying. However, I feel that doing those things that make us Mothers, The cleaning and cooking and diapers and homework ETC..it does not stop…IS holding to the rod. I had an experience once where I was saying my morning prayers, and I had a child walk in on me with a need. I had the powerful impression, that I was to stop praying and attend to my child, and that would be my prayer for the morning. I still have to say my prayers and read my scriptures when I can - but taking care of my children is worship, and service. My spiritual needs will be met. But the physical needs of my family come first - and that is o.k. for this season of my life. I am helping with the creation process, it is how it is supposed to be. I will not be left out. I am losing my life, and therefore will find it. It is amamzing how the Savior just takes care of that. We just need to do our best. He makes what we can do important enough to cover what we need. Itis about the Journey, not about doing everything perfectly - right now- all at once.
Comment #1 by ShantelMay 18th, 2009 at 1:32 pmi love this one. we all have baubles and distractions. but something reminded you of what you should be doing, and you were aware enough to recognize it. we all need those reminders.
as an aside, he’s got one called ‘responsible woman’ which is perhaps more similar to what you describe in this post. she looks like she’s got it together more than i do!
http://tinyurl.com/qf6to4
Comment #2 by ellenMay 18th, 2009 at 1:37 pmEllen, I love that, thanks. But I love James Christensen all the way around. We have one of his Shakespeare prints framed in our playroom. My sisters and I used to look at it and try to figure out which play each character in the painting represents.
Comment #3 by Heather O.May 18th, 2009 at 1:40 pmI was feeling like that this morning. I’m trying to decide what it is I need to let go of.
Comment #4 by mormonhermitmomMay 18th, 2009 at 1:40 pmI LOVE this picture - and this is the first time I’ve ever seen it. Too bad because I would have asked for it for mothers day! - DANG! I agree, Heather, that this may be representative of pride, but that’s not what I see in the man’s eyes. I see a look of LONGING. KNOWING what the rod is and LONGING to take hold of it and not feeling capable. I feel that too. I feel like I have, or HAVE had the “vision” of the Lord’s work - and yet with everything I have to juggle in my life I don’t feel like I’m being the best I can be at ANYTHING! Look at the man’s shoes and socks - ya-hi- WELCOME TO MY LIFE!! I just look at him and say, “C’mon! You can do it! Just drop it and jump! You can reach the bar, and when you do, He’ll hand back the stuff that you really need to carry, and everything else will just wash away!” Easier said than done, but that hint of courage and hope I see in his eyes makes me think it’s worth it. Thanks for the post, Heath, I needed it.
Comment #5 by Cousin NatMay 18th, 2009 at 2:01 pmI’ve been thinking about this lately and decided to just make more effort to get my own personal worship taken care of. So far, so good. (Ok, but it’s only been 2 days since I’ve been trying hard.)
Comment #6 by Mrs. MMay 18th, 2009 at 2:26 pmThank you Heather, this is just what I needed to see right now.
Comment #7 by Tracy MMay 18th, 2009 at 2:39 pmWell, sometimes I hold onto the diaper bag, kids’ backpacks, mop, broom, telephone, computer and all the time neglecting my scriptures or not always doing what I should be doin.
Comment #8 by TiffanyMay 18th, 2009 at 2:42 pmI love this painting. I was actually thinking that it was more saying that the man (a representation of Followers) is carrying the weight of his life on his back, but through it all still has his eyes fixed on the Rod despite all of life’s demands. That it is possible to be weighted by the world and still stay focused on what really matters.
But I too am not an art history major. That’s the neat thing about art to me, though, that we can make of it what we will.
Comment #9 by MaddisonMay 18th, 2009 at 2:46 pmThis is a great post. I totally get what you are saying.
Comment #10 by AubreyMay 18th, 2009 at 4:59 pmAnd, Shantel, I love your comment. Thanks for sharing that experience.
A great visual for a difficult concept. Thanks.
Comment #11 by JamiMay 18th, 2009 at 6:32 pmI love this post like peanut butter loves jelly.
Comment #12 by KrisMay 18th, 2009 at 7:26 pmI don’t look at it as …all that motherhood stuff is keeping me from holding to the rod… I think sometimes we let those extraneous things keeps us from the JOY. Motherhood should be joyful. I think when we decide to wallow in whatever it is we think about too much… we stray from that rod of joy.
There are many things that need to be done…but sometimes, it’s okay to set it aside for a moment to experience, revel in the JOY.
Comment #13 by QueenScarlettMay 18th, 2009 at 8:06 pmHere, here. I love that the shoes are different colors. So much my day!
Motherhood has definitely messed with my spiritual side. Pre marriage and kids I got up every morning and prayed on my knees next to my bed. I studied the scriptures every night, without fail. I always did my calling and my VT appointments every month.
Then, I got married. I still studied the scriptures, but reading scriptures before bed were a little uh, how to say this, libido reducing. So, I had to find other time in my day. Then having kids, I am the first up, but pretty much within 5 minutes of hearing me awake, one of the kids wakes up and either has bathroom issues, food issues, throw up issues, fever issues, etc. So, the prayers started taking place whenever I could get them in.
Notice I didn’t comment on the callings and VT appointments. It’s too embarrassing to admit.
So, I have a lot of room to improve. I am hoping Heavenly Father gives me a little pass as I try to improve and squeeze in the spiritual stuff here and there.
By the way, does reading the Friend at night count as scripture study?
Comment #14 by KatieMay 18th, 2009 at 8:45 pmLove this picture thanks for introducing it to me. I think you have it right. There are certainly alot of duties and responsibilities that come with mothering, but this picture reminds me of how many of the things we do that are not really necessary. I look at this picture and wonder what can he drop that he doesn’t need. He only needs to hold to that rod with one hand he can still keep all the things he really needs. I am so there right now, my eyes are focused intently on the rod, but not really sure if Im holding on tight.
Comment #15 by IzzyMay 18th, 2009 at 8:59 pmSince when do you need to have studied art history before you can use your own eyes and brain? I once heard James Christensen explain the concept to a bunch of students that the viewer of a work of art will always bring their own point of view. IIRC he said there was a triad of items necessary to art interpretation: The artist’s intent, the actual content of the work, and the POV of the viewer. Your opinions would be considered legitimate by the artist, I believe.
And while the figure in the “Hold to the Rod” work is clearly too burdened with stuff to grasp the rod (and he’s too short too!), the Responsible Woman figure in the link in #2 isn’t anywhere near The Iron Rod, and the stuff she’s laden with is much more practical…her inability to grasp the iron rod isn’t an issue. Beware of mixing your metaphors, even visual ones.
But that’s just my point of view.
Comment #16 by mommie dearestMay 19th, 2009 at 3:07 amThis reminds me I need to wear mismatched shoes today!
Comment #17 by Melissa McMay 19th, 2009 at 5:52 amI love that art can have layers of meanings and applications. Just like parables.
I’ve been thinking about this topic a lot lately. Before I had my 3rd baby last year, I was in such a good groove of personal gospel study, daily sincere personal prayer, etc.
Then newborn stage hit me again. And with so little sleep, the personal gospel study AND daily personal prayers both went out the window…along with temple attendance and so many other good things. I feel like nursing-a-newborn is a valid excuse for a while, but how long does it last? That baby is about to turn one and I’m thinking, “What is the deal here? Get on the ball and start grasping that rod again!”
Comment #18 by normal mormon wifeMay 19th, 2009 at 6:20 amI have to say that I LOVE that picture! And it does remind me a LOT of motherhood! And how important it is to grab on to that rod first.
Comment #19 by LorieMay 19th, 2009 at 6:45 amOT: Am I the only one for whom the Google Ads are not showing up anymore?
Comment #20 by kaduseyMay 19th, 2009 at 8:37 amNo. We’re fighting with Google right now. Apparently our May clicks were WAY higher than the other 2 months (and boy, was I excited about that!) and it set off their red flags.
Comment #21 by The WizMay 19th, 2009 at 8:53 amMommie dearest-
I don’t think anybody is mixing metaphors. I think Ellen (#2) was just pointing out another excellent painting of Christensen’s that speaks to some of the issues we are discussing. I do love that painting, too, and even made it my desktop background.
Comment #22 by Heather O.May 19th, 2009 at 8:58 amTruth be told, a purse with a couple of pampers, a pacifier, cheerios, crayons and a little early morning motivation will get the job done. It is a question of triage.
Comment #23 by HowardMay 19th, 2009 at 10:46 amOne of my first thoughts was that this must be after they “raised the bar”. What we may have gotten away with holding onto in the past while still trying to grasp the iron rod won’t cut it anymore. The bar has been raised in many senses of the phrase (I’m not just talking the missionary one here) and we must let go of some things we previously held onto in order to grasp the higher law so to speak. (I’m not saying that it used to be okay to love money more than God and that just recently changed or anything. I’m basically thinking out loud right now, but that’s what hit me most about this painting.) Good food for thought, Heather. Thanks.
Comment #24 by StarababaMay 19th, 2009 at 2:46 pmThe mixed metaphor thing is my throwaway opinion. Take it or toss it. According to the James Christensen triad theory, Ellen’s view is plenty valid.
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And #24’s “raising the bar” is a new angle. More unpalatable food for thought…
I want that image for *my* desktop background too. Sh. don’t tell I copied.
Comment #25 by mommie dearestMay 20th, 2009 at 12:06 amI love this paining. My parents had dinner with Christensen and he talked about his paintings with him. I don’t remember everything, but one thing pointed out was the Christmas ornament. Does sometimes holding on to all the decorations, presents, activities, etc. of the holiday season keep us from actually holding on to Christ? Sometimes they have to be dropped to hold to the rod. Everything the man is holding is “good” but he needs to strike a balance. If he wants to keep a hold of the Christmas ornament AND hold the rod, then something else needs to go. With everything he’s holding he must evaluate whether it’s worth keeping or if it’s preventing him from holding the rod.
Also, with the Responsible Woman painting, he pointed out how her toe brushes the tree. She is a mother who is carrying a huge burden and yet still flying - however occasionally her toes hit the tops of the trees. It’s not easy to soar, but she’s still above the trees.
Comment #26 by SeekerMay 20th, 2009 at 5:10 pmThere is a danger of being daily distracted from making the time to hold on to the iron rod to take care of our myriad of responsibilities first before we commune with God.
With God, everything IS possible. Without him, we will continue to be very distracted - and eventually, we’ll find ourselves very far away from Him.
If we don’t make the persistent, consistent, disciplined effort to STUDY (going beyond just reading) the scriptures, we will lose our handhold on the iron rod. There is no other way to hold on to it. We must physically do it.
I know that if I don’t make it a priority to study my scriptures when I begin my day, I lose my hold on the iron rod & we - my family & I, suffer from it.
Our family’s (temporal & spiritual) survival is greatly contingent on our spiritual strength as covenant women of God. We can’t afford to let these distractions get the best of us.
Comment #27 by CorazonJune 27th, 2009 at 7:04 amPS…Love the artwork! Great reminder…
Comment #28 by CorazonJune 27th, 2009 at 7:07 amI do not like the painting. Men and Women are equal, period. Women and Men share the same responsibility.
Comment #29 by TamaraJanuary 21st, 2012 at 10:05 pm