By Melissa Mc
School is out next Thursday for my kids, and thus begins the chorus of, “I’m bored…I have nothing to do!”
Three years ago our summer was spent imprisoned in our own home due to my youngest son’s recovery from open heart surgery. We couldn’t take him ANYWHERE because his little post-op body had a hard time regulating body temperature. Getting him out in the heat of summer was forbidden. Even a hot car was bad news. For three months my children and I were trapped. At the end of it, we all were ready to break our temple covenants and go our separate ways.
The following summer I overreacted and signed them up for EVERY summer camp offered in town. The cost was equal to one semester’s tuition at a state college, but I wasn’t going to repeat the summer from Hell.
This year, we’ve come to a happy medium…one week of reading camp offered by the school district, one week of Zoo camp and one week of science museum camp. Mix that in with trips to see grandparents, swim lessons, and lazy TV days and Mom’s sanity remains in tact (I’m not a very good Julie, The Cruise Director) and the kids have a great summer.
What’s missing from this equation is – what about Mom?
I’ve recently embarked on a “creative boot camp” for the summer. As a result, I was reminded of an article I ripped out of a women’s magazine last year called, “The Summer of You,” by Salley Shannon (Woman’s Day June 17 2008). She said, “summer is the perfect time to make a resolution, then do that one fun, lighthearted thing you’ve been thinking about, but for all the usual reasons have never gotten around to doing…the great thing about summer is that it is a clearly defined period – Memorial Day to Labor Day with July 4 being the middle – which makes it less overwhelming in our minds to complete a resolution.”
Last year my girlfriend Alison and I planned on taking golf lessons. Both of our husbands golf, but neither one of us knew how. We had dreams of being a romantic foursome on the course with our sweeties. It never happened. Our schedules were trumped by our kids. Her boys swimming meets conflicted with the dates, gas was $4 a gallon and our carpooling was part of the benefit because the course was 30 minutes away and when her plans changed, mine did as well.
This year, I’m committed to doing something new. I’ve downloaded the summer program schedule from my adult learning center and have found two classes that work with my schedule – Knitting 101 and Zumba (I could have done wine tasting and firearms safety, but I will save those for another summer!). For 12 weeks, I have an activity just for me for the remainder of the summer. There were hundreds of classes to choose from – cooking, foreign language, digital photography, upholstery, fly-fishing – so many I wish had time to do them all.
So, consider this the first annual Summer of You/MMW challenge (and if you don’t see my name on the sidebar anymore, you know the administrators gave me the boot for not seeking prior editorial approval to do this) – find a class, an activity, a book, something you’ve wanted to try, read, learn this summer and do it. See how creative you can be by finding things that are FREE. Our library system has TONS of free classes during the summer. Find a friend and teach each other your talents. I’m really mad Heather doesn’t live close to me anymore, because I so want to know how to make bread and can and store food and everything else she can do. I’d say the same for Tracy – but even Tracy-michaelangelo couldn’t teach me to paint!!! I’m hopeless. But as a dancer in a previous life, I know I can eventually Zumba!
If you don’t have any ideas – the article suggests the following:
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Take dance lessons: Tap or Couples Salsa? You pick.
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Make a book of family recipes: Or of family stories. Write down one each week.
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Splurge on a “happiness treat” – Sequinned flip flops? A new necklace? Wear what you choose as often as you can.
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Master two techie tricks: Tame your TiVo and upload photos from your cell.
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Reconnect times three: Each month (June, July, August) phone someone you love but seldom have time to talk with.
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Go for a walk with a friend every Saturday (or a day of your choosing): Mark it on your calendar now!
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Sample ice cream: Treat yourself to a different flavor every week.
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Act like a kid: Toast marshmallows, eat s’mores, catch fireflies, watch fireworks.
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GET OUT! Once a week, go to a farmer’s market, outdoor concert or movie.
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Learn three things on your “I really wish I could…” list: Grow roses, tell a joke, make homemade ice cream.
I expect you to return and report after Labor Day!
Happy Summer Fun Days!




Sweet, I love this!!
This summer I plan on training a puppy, sewing a quilt for my bedroom, and going to the farmer’s market each week. And learning to cook healthy, whole foods because a diet of Wendys and Panda Express is not doing good things for my jean size.
Comment #1 by KrisMay 30th, 2009 at 1:43 pmI went to the Farmer’s Market here yesterday, if that counts. It’s not very exciting to go during the summer, it’s too hot for most of the vendors to go, but I did buy some Prickly Pear Cactus Butter, and tried some freshly harvested honey. I’ll have to go again in the fall when it ought to be busier.
I think I am going to sign up for eight days of swimming lessons for my 1 year old. He loves going in his grandparents’ pool, but I would really like to learn how to teach him to not drink the pool water. I’ve decided I love the local city Recreation system when it comes to swimming. Most of the other classes end up being rather expensive, but the swimming lessons are cheap and frequent all summer long, and I have a goal to be in the water a lot more this summer than I have the last two summers.
Comment #2 by kaduseyMay 30th, 2009 at 2:12 pmI just got made the president of our local chapter of MOMS Club (which, by the way, is a great club if you don’t already know) so my resolution for the summer is to figure out how to do my job well and survive. I really want to take a digital photography class with my new sweet camera, but I think that one’s going to have to wait. *sniff sniff*
Comment #3 by StarababaMay 30th, 2009 at 2:25 pmA neighbor is starting a play group and we’ll meet once a week at a different park each week to have lunch and let the kids run like maniacs. That will have to be my “get out” part.
As for doing something new, my hubby is looking for other work so I’m sure that will come by itself if it works out.
Comment #4 by mormonhermitmomMay 30th, 2009 at 5:33 pmI’m making more jam. Does that count?
Comment #5 by Heather O.May 30th, 2009 at 6:52 pmI’m teaching at a conference in August, so I will be spending my summer preparing for that. It’s a lot of work, and not really in the category of “fun and relaxing”, but it’s the one thing I get to do professionally each year for ME.
Comment #6 by eljeeMay 30th, 2009 at 7:03 pmI’m going to spend the summer enjoying my kids, and only my kids. Last summer I had did daycare and that made it hard to do some of the activities that my kids wanted to do. We are going to do swim lessons, more than one session if we can get in. Earn free books from the library. Start and finish some sewwing projects. And because I take the my kids to the park almost everyday for free lunch & to play I’m going to get a start on my huge list of books to read. First book I’m going to read this summer is “The Peacegiver” I’m so excited.
Comment #7 by ModdyMay 30th, 2009 at 7:21 pmThere are no rules and no forced participation.
Comment #8 by Melissa McMay 30th, 2009 at 8:14 pmThere is next to nothing to do around here- but my friend told me about zumba (driving an hour one way to take a class can’t be done) and I got the dvd’s. My goal (after watching it last night- watching, not doing) is to be able to do it the advance one by the time I return back to school.
In a way I am lucky- my divorce has provided me 6 weeks of ME. As much as I miss my son, I love my 6 weeks to restore myself emotionally, physically & spiritually.
Comment #9 by MelMay 31st, 2009 at 8:48 amTaking a class would be fun, but I don’t have the time. I don’t need another new thing to do—I need time to do the old stuff I still want to do!
Comment #10 by Susan MMay 31st, 2009 at 9:33 amI think I’ll take this summer to start scrapbooking again. I haven’t done it in so long, and it would be great to get it going before the new baby comes in the fall! I realized yesterday when I quickly had to make 3 birthday cards in one hour before heading to a family function that I really love paper crafting and I’m still pretty good at it! I’ll set my sights low- maybe one page a week. I have been so busy planning my kids’ summer that I didn’t even think about myself. Thanks for the inspiration!
Comment #11 by KaseyQMay 31st, 2009 at 1:50 pmSad days. Can you still fit in the knitting class?
Comment #12 by kaduseyMay 31st, 2009 at 8:17 pm[…] Continued here: Summer Fun Days! […]
Pingback #13 by Summer Fun Days! | Blog CarJune 1st, 2009 at 12:47 amThanks for the post. Nice to know that you’ve survived a summer like I’m probably going to have. The kids are off in two weeks and the week after they get out, my youngest is going in for his third big heart surgery, so we’ll be doing the recovery thing for however long it takes. (Weeks? Months? It’s been almost two years since his last one, so I don’t know how he’ll do. He had a bad heat reaction a few weeks back after being out in mild weather for several hours.) Luckily, my in-laws will be here for the first couple of weeks, so I only have to entertain five kids for eight weeks after they leave.
I think for my youngest I will keep the air conditioning cranked up despite the cost and keep a lot of popsicles in the freezer. For the other kids I will increase the number of movies we can get on netflix and encourage them to ride their bikes a lot. For myself: I will continue to blog this summer, unlike last summer, when I stopped while the kids were at home.
And if I make it through the summer without threatening to leave my husband or abandon the children in an orphanage, I should probably treat myself to something when September rolls around. Expensive jewelry, a trip to New York City, something of that sort. Thanks for the ideas!
Comment #14 by ResearcherJune 1st, 2009 at 8:50 amTwo words: Bike Rides.
Comment #15 by BYU Women's ServicesJune 1st, 2009 at 9:40 amResearcher: Another “heart-kid” Mom! Hope all goes well. Keep us posted. where is his surgery?
Comment #16 by Melissa McJune 1st, 2009 at 11:20 amYes, my youngest is a heart kid (HLHS). He’s being treated at CHOP. They called this morning wanting to know if we could bring him in for his surgery this Wednesday instead of in three weeks. (”NO!”)
Thanks for asking, Melissa!
Comment #17 by ResearcherJune 1st, 2009 at 5:33 pmSorry, everyone…total thread-jack here…
Wow — CHOP — I’m in awe. It’s FABULOUS! Our cardiologist did her residency there. My son was born with Tetralogy of Fallot. He probably won’t need surgery again until he is an adolescent. My girlfriend in DC has identical twins, one with a normal heart, one with HLHS. She’s 5 and has had 3 surgeries. Her’s were done at DC Children’s.
Comment #18 by Melissa McJune 1st, 2009 at 5:53 pmAgain, I hope all goes well. I know what you are going thru and will be thinking about you!!
Returning several days later to continue the threadjack…
Yes, CHOP is great. Thank you for your kind thoughts. Glad your son is doing well. I imagine you’ve seen “Something the Lord Made”?
We have lots of friends and family and ward members and fellow bloggers and other heart families following his carepage. It’s closed access, and we’re expecting (hoping for, praying and fasting for) a fairly boring trip to the hospital, but if anyone would like to follow his case, I would be happy to send an invitation to anyone I’m familiar with from the blogging community who wanted to drop me an email.
Now… back to the search for a decent doughnut.
Comment #19 by ResearcherJune 5th, 2009 at 1:13 pm[…] Last year, I got all enlightened and wrote about taking classes and learning new things for the summer. A year later – I’m not even sure what self improvements I initiated! I think I have an unfinished scarf somewhere. I never did take that Zumba class. I know I was really good about writing in my journal, but somehow, that fell apart once school started again in the fall. […]
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