By Heather O.
My husband called about an hour ago. He said those fateful words that every mother hates to hear.
“Honey, I’m going to be late.”
Little Sister had just pitched her third tantrum of the day, which included throwing herself on the floor and banging her head on the carpet. The reason for her outburst? Her mother wouldn’t open another bottle of Gatorade, instead insisting that Little Sister drink from the already opened bottle of Gatorade, which was, incidentally, THE EXACT SAME FLAVOR as the one she was wanting me to open. So it’s not like she was being tempted by red dye #4. Yellow #7 seemed to be satisfactory.
I was counting down the minutes to when I would hear my beloved’s footsteps on the porch, when he would rescue me from a screaming toddler who, after she calmed down from her tantrum, chose to entertain herself by sitting on my head while covering my face with her brother’s cape. Then, another tantrum ensued when I wouldn’t let my offspring rip the hair off my head.
I love my daughter.
There is the undeniable fact, however, that she is better behaved for her father than she is for me. I proved this theory once when DH had to be the primary parent for the day. When I returned at dusk, he reported a tantrum free day, whereupon the child looked at me, recognized her mother, and pitched an all mighty fit about the color of her cup.
I turned and left the room. I’m no fool, after all. If she behaves like a normal person instead of a possessed toddler when I’m not around, I know how to make my exit.
So it was the promise of this infusion of Daddy induced good behavior that was holding me together, the glue that was keeping my from breaking all to pieces.
And so I had to wait just a bit longer.
It was the longest half an hour ever.
He did come home, and sprang me from my tantrum prison. He did try to talk to me, however, at which point I sort of came into focus and said, “um, what?”
“You haven’t heard a word I said, have you?”
At this point, Scooby Doo was going on full blast on the TV, J was bouncing on the bed on his bum with his foot outstretched towards us to demonstrate his most recent playground wound, and Little Sister was singing along with the TV at her loudest while emptying toy bins and crashing them around the room.
“Yes, I blocked you out. It’s a defense mechanism all mothers employ. Otherwise we would eat our young.”
DH was not amused at my reference to cannibalizing his children. Can’t imagine why not. They probably taste like chicken.
Not surprisingly, he volunteered to make dinner.
Smart man.
As a postscript, may I say that Scooby Doo makes no sense. There are glaring leaps of logic that I noticed even as a kid. And yet, we still enjoy these things.
Our country is doomed.




“Yes, I blocked you out. It’s a defense mechanism all mothers employ. Otherwise we would eat our young.”
True, true words, H. David never understood this fact until he spent the last many months at home. Now? He totally gets it. Maybe when finally does come again he won’t forget all he’s learned.
Comment #1 by Tracy MSeptember 18th, 2009 at 5:47 pmUh huh.
Comment #2 by mormonhermitmomSeptember 18th, 2009 at 6:07 pmMy DH will be gone to NYC for 8 days next week — I have a feeling I will be eating young for dinner quite often.
Comment #3 by Melissa McSeptember 18th, 2009 at 6:27 pmOh yes. Absolutely. Totally different daughter with my husband that with me. Eat for momma? Oh no! Daddy’s home? Sure I’ll take a bottle from Daddy! Tantrums for mom, sweet angel for dad.
Comment #4 by SeekerSeptember 18th, 2009 at 7:16 pmHow I sympathize. A few weeks ago, I was driven to call my husband at work and demanded that he take two or three days off whenever there was free spot next on the schedule. After he looked into it, he said there weren’t any open spots until this week. I told him it didn’t matter, he just had to take that time off.
This was his first day back to work and he’ll be home again for the weekend and I’m already longing for him to have more days off…Sheesh, why do we have to work? Why can’t we just have everyone stay home with their families all the time so those who normally spend the most time with the kids won’t kill them!
Comment #5 by FirebyrdSeptember 19th, 2009 at 2:36 amMy little one is the same way! She’s a bear all day with me, then a doll for dad! He can’t understand why I don’t get anything done all day because “she’s just sooooo good!” It’s frustrating to say the least. I shouldn’t be too bitter about it though…my hubby works full time and goes to school full time…most of the time he’s gone before DD is up and home after she’s in bed. So it’s good that he only gets the cute sweet baby when he is home to enjoy it.
Comment #6 by Christina M.September 19th, 2009 at 6:54 amI’m always checking the clock from about 2pm on, waiting for my husband to get home. Hearing the key turn in the lock is the sweetest sound of my day. He’s always rescuing me from the chaos, taking over as soon as he steps in the door. He’s would make a much better stay-at-home parent than I would, but I’d suck at being an accountant.
Comment #7 by ErikaSeptember 19th, 2009 at 12:13 pmOkay, so last year, and three years prior, my husband worked out of town during the week and came home on the weekend. This past year he has been doing more of the office work and has been able to stay home. This week, he went out of town and my brain and body completely shut down. I didn’t know what to make for breakfast, I couldn’t fathom bottling any more tomatoes, let alone remember how to do them, and I just sat on my rump staring into space, trying for the life of me to remember what I should be doing.
I didn’t think this would ever happen. We have a routine when he is gone… guess, I don’t really remember it!
Hope everyone stayed alive.
Comment #8 by SunshineSeptember 19th, 2009 at 2:52 pmMy favorite lines from a play I watched at a high school…
Patient #1 (in mental hospital) sorry, I’m not an optimist like you
Patient #2 (in mental hosptial) Honey, i believe all people are optimists. Otherwise we would kill our you.
That line hit me so hard and true. I am NO WAY an optimist. But my two children were still alive. So it was nice to have someone say I WAS an optimist. I’ll show them!
No other sentances have brought me so much joy as those two. I like to use them against my now 4 children.
Sweetie, you are wrong. I do like you. Otherwise I would have killed you when you were young. (hmmm, dark to write it, but funny said to a pre-teen.
Comment #9 by Rachel R.September 19th, 2009 at 3:19 pmMy kids behave for me as well as they behave for my husband, and they throw equal opportunity tantrums, without any gender discrimination in their audience whatsoever. I never thought of that as a plus, but maybe it is.
Comment #10 by Molly in the Jello BeltSeptember 19th, 2009 at 6:32 pmActually, as your kids get older, you’ll find this mother/father behavior dichotomy transforms into parent/neighbor behavior. We had children who at middle-school age were causing us (truly) sleepless nights, but their friends’ parents thought they were the most delightful youth imaginable. ..bruce..
Comment #11 by bfwebsterSeptember 19th, 2009 at 8:47 pmI’m still stuck on the opening line, “I’m going to be late.” The first year I was married, for my DH’s birthday I made stuffed pork chops from scratch (even made the stuffing). I got the phone call 5 minutes before he was to arrive home. Needless to say, one hour later the chops were not what they could have been, and DH thought I had purchased them already stuffed. (I didn’t know that was an option.)
Comment #12 by JCSeptember 20th, 2009 at 11:23 am“I’m going to be late”. I sometimes get this but twice last week I also got, “I’m running late so will go straight to the chapel”. My youngest is 9 but I still find it hard and want to kill them all some days.
Comment #13 by KaySeptember 20th, 2009 at 12:31 pm