By Melissa Mc
I’m not sure I do anything right as a mother: I yell too much, I criticize too much, I don’t cook well enough, I don’t craft at all – OK let’s stop there because I’m depressing myself.
But I’ve done one thing right in the past month that I’m really proud of – I’ve started a mother/daughter book club for my daughter and her third grade friends and their mothers.
We met for the second time tonight and can I tell you what I saw in her face? Joy! Unadulterated Joy! (I would describe what she looked like the first time we met, but she was home, on the couch, with 104 fever and presumably, H1N1, so she didn’t go).
We started reading the Betsy-Tacy series by Maud Hart Lovelace. Admittedly, I thought this would be a little old fashioned for my Disney Channel-raised daughter, but she loved it. And the group loved it! They talked energetically about the book, they asked questions, they discussed characters, they talked about likes and dislikes, they even argued about what character they wanted to be! And the mothers loved it too.
So tonight, I’m glowing in my daughter’s bliss, and realizing that occasionally, I can do something right.






This sounds so great! I’m wondering…how did you get this started? Are they books your kids can read on their own or books you read with them? Good luck keeping it going!
Comment #1 by Amanda DNovember 10th, 2009 at 9:34 pmYou can, you can do something right! Truly! Like Shel Silverstein says, “Anything is possible, anything can be.” It’s remembering it that’s sometimes hard.
I think as mamas {take myself for instance} we tend to forget our power, our great creative influence. It ebbs away from us until something snaps us back.
I need to check that series out. A mama-daughter book club sounds divine!
Comment #2 by Terresa WellbornNovember 10th, 2009 at 9:35 pmThat sounds like so much fun. I loved the Betsy-Tacy books when I was a little girl. I guarantee your daughter will remember the book club longer than she would have remembered the handcrafted centerpiece on the dinner table.
Comment #3 by Molly in the Jello BeltNovember 10th, 2009 at 10:06 pmWhat you’ve described sounds like heaven to me. I would so love to do that w/ my daughter. I’m sitting here silently applauding you in my head!
Comment #4 by Sues2u2November 10th, 2009 at 11:07 pmWhat a fun idea! My oldest is only 3 but we read the Illustrated Book of Mormon together every morning during breakfast and she eats it up right along with her cereal. It’s not hard when they just like to be read to, no matter what it is, but I think it’s such a great bonding experience to enjoy a book, any book, with your child. I love the idea of a mother-daughter book club and am totally doing that when mine is older! Thanks for sharing a great idea, and the great good you’re doing in her life!
Comment #5 by StarababaNovember 10th, 2009 at 11:50 pmI love the Betsy-Tacy books. Read them all, several times. Can’t wait to have a daughter (or grand-daughter) to share them with!
Comment #6 by AmyNovember 11th, 2009 at 9:59 amThat’s too cool.
Comment #7 by mormonhermitmomNovember 11th, 2009 at 11:02 amWhat a great idea! It is hard to get children excited about reading, plus you are fostering Mother-daughter time. I love when Mothers take the time to recognize their own accomplishments and give themselves a much needed pat on the back, Kudos.
Comment #8 by As Sistas In ZionNovember 11th, 2009 at 11:29 amI too am in awe that you could make something so neat work with 8 year old girls. I’m trying to think who I could wrangle into doing something like with my son, and I can’t think of a single family who would be up for it. You’re amazing.
Comment #9 by Heather O.November 11th, 2009 at 12:36 pmStarting a Mother/Daughter book group 101:
Comment #10 by Melissa McNovember 11th, 2009 at 12:50 pmI set the date/place/time/book — then sent an email to my daughter’s teacher with the details and asked her to forward it to the third grade parent email list and the other third grade teachers. I had 6 moms respond. Voila! Mother/Daughter book group is born! We have 7 moms/7 daughters — a perfect size group. We meet for an hour on the 3rd Tuesday of every month (with the exception of December, because of the holidays). Our 1st meeting was at a local community center, because I wasn’t sure about hosting our group at home, but, the other moms have stepped up and offered to host. I picked the 1st Betsy Tacy book and the girls liked it so much, they wanted to read the remaining 3 in the adolescent series. I was discussion leader for our 1st meeting — but the girls are now responsible for leading the discussion and asking questions and researching bio info on the author (once we choose a different author).
Very cool- you are awesome!
Comment #11 by merrybitsNovember 11th, 2009 at 6:29 pm