By Heather O.
In honor of Valentine’s Day, Sue over at Navel Gazing at its Finest is having an awesomely hopeless romantic moment week. Since I have nothing else to blog about, and a plethora of embarrassing romantic stories, I thought I’d play along, add my link, and give you all yet another glimpse of the glamour that is my life. Lucky, lucky you.
I graduated from Boston University, and BU is located basically on top of Fenway Park. Hence, it was a very cool and relatively easy thing to go to Red Sox games if you were a BU student. If you went the cheap route, you could get seats in the “bleachers” for 10 bucks. Bleacher seats had lots of students, beach balls, and beer. It was also a prime spot for catching home runs. I was once on a date where the guy jumped over 3 rows to get Ken Griffey Jr.’s homerun ball. He also ditched me after the game to go see if he could get it signed, which should tell you how emotionally invested he was in the whole “date” thing.
I spent a fair amount of time my freshman year trying to get that guy to notice me. Let’s call him Home Run Boy, because really, he was more than just a casual baseball fan. He was a dire hard, and the fastest way to his heart was tickets to the ball game. Or so I figured. So that year, I bought tickets to games thinking that he’d fall in love with me while watching the Red Sox. I did other, more embarrassing things as well, which all added up to a very cordial friendship. When I found out he was dating a good friend of mine, I came to accept the fact that Home Run Boy would never be anything more than a friend.
A few years later, he and I went to another ball game. We went to dinner first, and then sat in seats more glamorous than the bleachers. We were having a good time, actually, relaxed and easy. You know, like friends do. And then he looked at my mouth.
“Why is he looking at my mouth?” I wondered.
I swiped my lips with my fingers, making sure I didn’t have something on my face. Nothing. But he kept stealing looks at my lips, and it made me begin to think that maybe, just maybe, after all this time, he WAS finally interested in more than friendship. I leaned in just a little closer, just to make sure that I didn’t miss any opportunity for canoodling, if he should choose to go that route. He didn’t, but he just kept looking at me. I was sure that the night would end with some smooching.
It didn’t. He dropped me off at my dorm, and I went into my room, dejected. My roommate was there, along with another male friend who, come to think of it, had been hanging around a lot lately. We’ll call him Breakfast Boy, because he often came to our dorm for breakfast, claiming our cafeteria had the best breakfast around. He often invited me to go with him, and the first time I told my roommate I was going to breakfast with a boy, she snorted and said, “Well, he must be cute, because only a good looking guy can get you out of bed THAT early.” He WAS cute. He also used to call me Sunshine, which I thought was pretty sweet.
“So, how did it go?” my roommate asked, and I told her how I was SURE that after all these years of friendship, Home Run Boy was finally ready to move on, that I thought he was going to kiss me, but that I was getting all kinds of mixed signals, and I didn’t know WHAT to make of it. I grilled Breakfast Boy about male behavior, and he answered mostly in shrugs and grunts and an admonition to dump the jerk. I sat down on my bed with a sigh, and caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror.
I had a big, green piece of broccoli stuck in my teeth.
Mixed signals, indeed.
Breakfast Boy excused himself, and left. I found out later that he was there to ask me out, that he told my floormates that HE was ready to move things to a different level, but ditched that idea when I came back mooning about Home Run Boy. He started dating somebody else instead, who, I might add, was a total twit. He called HER “Cutie”, which, in my opinion, is not nearly as endearing as Sunshine.
But it means that at the end of day, a perfectly good romantic opportunity was ruined by my cluelessness. And poor dental hygiene.
Home Run Boy and I are still friends, by the way. I got a Christmas card from him this year with a picture of him and his gorgeous wife and his gorgeous kids. It’s nice to still be in touch. But I do wish the movie “He’s just not that into you” had been around when I was in college. It would have explained a LOT.
I have no idea what happened to Breakfast Boy. Perhaps he and Cutie have gorgeous kids, too.
Anybody else with the embarrassing moments? ‘Cause I could go on all.day.long.




Not embarrassing, but my husband and I met at Fenway Park, during one of their LDS nights.
Comment #1 by JanelleFebruary 8th, 2010 at 1:07 pmSo there ARE some magical romantic properties inherent in the Green Monster. I KNEW it.
Comment #2 by Heather O.February 8th, 2010 at 1:12 pmI don’t have any really embarrassing dating moments yet. I’ll let you know tomorrow. This evening, I’m planning on asking out a guy I’ve had my eye on for quite some time.
Comment #3 by Keri BrooksFebruary 8th, 2010 at 1:24 pmHa! I’m glad it’s not just me. Oh the broccoli in the teeth. That’s - so awkward.
I wish the BOOK He’s Just Not That Into You was around when I was dating, and that someone had forced me to read it approximately forty times. Because I JUST DID NOT GET IT.
thanks for playing
Comment #4 by SueFebruary 8th, 2010 at 2:10 pmYes, That book and movie needed to come out a lot sooner. I spent most of college thinking that my friend, who I thought I was in love with, was one sentence away from asking me out. He was “too shy” or “scared he’d ruin our friendship”, or a milion other excuses my roomates and I came up with, but in the end, he just didn’t care. Didn’t stop me from a lot of embarrassing moments, including the fact that I stole his picture off a bulletin board in the athletic building at school (he played soccer). I still have that picture. I think as a reminder that I should never, ever be so stupid again. Luckily, I have no doubts that my husband is both my friend AND loves me.
Comment #5 by KFebruary 8th, 2010 at 2:32 pmThis story is way too long for a comment, but in college one of my girlfriends introduced me to one of her guy friends. We started dating and he would show up at random times, take me to FUN dates (like night-sledding. ooo, romantic!) and was always touching me. G-rated touches, like the back of my hand or putting his arm around my shoulders and neck massage during movies. Then Valentine’s rolls around. I don’t remember what I did for him because I’ve blocked it from my mind, it was sooo too much effort, but he did NOTHING for me. Nada. Zip.
The following week my friend who had introduced us calls me up. Turns out this guy took her skiing on Valentine’s Day, and up at the top of the mountain proceeds to tell her that he’s always loved her, part of him will always love her, but he can’t decide between her or me or a 3rd chica that we didn’t know. Apparently he felt a personality connection with my friend, thought I had a hot body, but loved the fact that the 3rd girl had served a portuguese-speaking mission like he had, therefore giving them a “spiritual” connection.
Needless to say my friend and I never went out with the jerk again. And I sent him a nasty email telling him where to go and how to get there. And the next day he showed up outside my french class in order to “talk” which I wasn’t interested in. At which point he told me I wasn’t that hot because I had zits. To which I replied that my zits would go away but he would always be a bastard.
And that is where we left it.
Comment #6 by AmyFebruary 8th, 2010 at 2:45 pmOh, how nice it is to know that I’m not the only who didn’t get it. I have a trundle of embarrassing dating stories, but you and Sue both made me think of the one I like to call “As soon as he leaves, I will curl up and die.”
A certain boy spent a lot of time at my apartment. As in, I said goodnight to him, and the next morning he would still be at the kitchen table when I poured my cold cereal. Pretty sure he’d leave in between. No, really, I’m certain he left in between. This was BYU after all.
Did I mention how I had a crush on this boy? ‘Cause I did, but he seemed to be completely enthralled with my roommate, who was much prettier. Every boy was in love with her, so it really did make sense that this boy was too. Really.
Just before Christmas break, this boy said to me, at a strategic time when only I was around, “So, do you want to go see such and such a play next week?”
In my cluelessness, I thought he was including me in a big group event kind of thing. So I answered with a noncommital, “Sure, I’ll probably be around.”
But then he said, “Great.” And started talking about the specific date and when he would pick me up. And then very quickly left to go buy the tickets.
I was shocked. And I’m sure I would have blurted out something like, “Wait. Are you saying that all these months, you’ve liked me?” Good thing he left so quickly.
Six weeks later, we were engaged. This was BYU, after all.
Comment #7 by AhnaFebruary 8th, 2010 at 2:50 pmThe story of my worst date ever is pretty classic. Highlights include introducing my date by the wrong name, finding out he lived in “my missionary’s” previous apartment, and accidentally showing off the fact that I was wearing hot pink panties. Too long to post here, but here’s a link: http://www.jeremyharker.com/family/2007/08/hot-pink-underpants/
Comment #8 by ColleenFebruary 8th, 2010 at 3:28 pmAh, I love the “he’s too shy”, or “He doesn’t want to ruin our friendship” garbage that we fed ourselves. Of COURSE he doesn’t want to ruin the friendship—that would mean DATING, which he doesn’t want to do. Because he’s not that into you.
I was devastated when another best friend/crush didn’t show up to the airport when I left my hometown for Boston that very first year. I even wrote about it in my journal, I was so distraught. My BFF girlfriend said that he didn’t show up because, and I quote, “He doesn’t want you to see him cry. He’s that upset about you leaving, and doesn’t want you to know.”
I ran that scenario by my husband, and he said, “Ummmm, no. He didn’t come to the airport to say goodbye, because he didn’t care enough about you leaving to bother getting out of bed.”
Because (say it with me people) HE’s JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU.
Comment #9 by Heather O.February 8th, 2010 at 3:47 pmHeather - you realize I’m currently trying to remember the real names of both Home Run Boy & Sunshine Boy.
And let the record state that I said you were going to marry your now-husband about five years before you actually did. Just goes to show that you picked really smart roommates at BU.
Comment #10 by BitsFebruary 8th, 2010 at 4:04 pmOh, how I wish I could go back in time to erase TOO MANY embarrassing encounters. I too, had the best friend scenario, and had no idea he liked me. When I was crying on his shoulder about one guy, he hugged me. It obviously made me feel weird and the only thing I could say was, “You smell like cheese” (He worked at a cheese factory) To which he replied, “Really, I didn’t even work today.” MORTIFIED! But we are still friends, and he married an amazing girl. Or the time I went to the airport to see a missionary off, along with 3, count them 3 other girls. Awesome. I didn’t feel too bad when he came home a month later and I had already met my husband. Ahh, my husband. I will always say that I can’t believe I talked him into marrying me. I know I can be cooky sometimes, but it’s his fault he was easily swayed, so he’s stuck!! If I knew that I wouldn’t be so embarrassed, I would own up to the boys I dated, but rather I just hope and pray that they are men, forget things, and think of me as the one that got away. At least I’ll just tell myself that.
BTW, can’t wait to hear all the other stories.
Comment #11 by AngieFebruary 8th, 2010 at 4:37 pmThe saddest thing about the Home Run Boy story, Heather, is that his sister would have made _such_ an excellent sil.
Comment #12 by anonFebruary 8th, 2010 at 4:40 pmMy 1st “real” love in college (Texas A&M- go Aggies!!!!) and I were flirting around. I was horrible at it as I didn’t really date in HS, instead fixated on grades & getting into a college with scholarships… so, one day at the pool we were doing laps, ended in a kiss. I was head over heels- which was “our song.” He went to a study abroad program our 2nd summer of college (now been dating for almost 2 yrs) and had given me a promis ring ontop a ferris wheel the week before he left. (Should have been a clue- I’m deathly afraid of heights, and he guilted me into the dumb ride.)
Any who, at the end of the summer of amazing post cards and plans to marry, he said he couldn’t wait to see me again. Meeting at the airport, with his mom, he introduced us to Allen. My little world smashed into a million pieces as we tried to figure out what to do & as he told me he was bisexual, but was in love with me, and could I please understand…
It was/is the most humiliating thing to ever happen to me. I had no clue at all.
Comment #13 by MelzieFebruary 8th, 2010 at 5:12 pmanon-
Yes, Home Run Boy always did speak highly of his sisters. I hear his family rocks.
K, I stole a pic of a boy from the ward photographer once. She had doubles, and I asked if I could keep the extra picture of him. We were actually dating at that point, but he dumped me mere days later, and then flew out a ‘friend’ from Utah to meet his family. I hear he and his ‘friend’ now have 5 children. I can’t remember what I did with the picture (tore it to shreds in a dramatic fit, probly) but I kept it in my scriptures WAY longer than is appropriate for a rational human being who has just recently been dumped on her butt.
Comment #14 by Heather O.February 8th, 2010 at 5:18 pmThanks for all the stories, I needed the laugh. But now I’m even more afraid at the thought of dating again. I had a hard enough time the first time. Now I’m older and have 2 kids. Please someone tell me it’s easier the second time around (even if you have to lie!!).
Comment #15 by ModdyFebruary 8th, 2010 at 5:33 pmModdy– I thought it was much easier!! Though, it took me 5 years to try it. I would never suggest dating in college though, hahahaha!!
Comment #16 by MelzieFebruary 8th, 2010 at 7:50 pmI know his sister, and she’s amazing.
Oh my, the stories I have… most of them are too, um, colorful for my now-life. And I’m with Moddy- now officially single again, and the idea of dating terrifies me. Last time I dated I wasn’t a member, I wasn’t a mother, and I wasn’t in my 30’s. Ack!
Comment #17 by Tracy MFebruary 8th, 2010 at 8:56 pmOh gosh, I once stole a picture of a guy OFF OF HIS FRIDGE. {facepalm}
Comment #18 by SueFebruary 8th, 2010 at 10:42 pmMy most embarrassing supposed-to-be-romantic moment? Picture this: My dh and I have been married for almost a year. It is our first Christmas. We are at his parent’s house, the whole family gathered around the speakerphone in his parent’s bedroom talking to the one missionary sibling (5 kids total) that is not physically present in the room. I came into the room, walked up next to my beloved, and, as I am wont to do, grabbed his bum… followed by hearing my father-in-law’s voice saying, “It’s me.”
Now, I am not one that is easily embarrassed, but I could not stop crying for about 10 minutes. Holy cow, grabbing your father-in-law’s butt *in front of the whole fandamily?!??!*
Runner up: My freshman year of college, I was stoked to be asked out on a Valentine’s double date. My date was all excited about some surprise he had planned. Shortly before our date, he called to tell me that his friend’s date had ditched him, and since he wanted to help the friend stop crying and distract him, he asked if it would be OK if the friend joined us on our date. “Well, OK?” So, the 3 of us go the Brick Oven for our Valentine’s date, and then here is the surprise: The two guys (one with red, swollen eyes from crying) take off their coats to reveal matching “Hunka hunka burning love!” t-shirts on underneath. Just a little bit awkward.
Comment #19 by StrollerbladerFebruary 8th, 2010 at 11:04 pmSue, you took it OFF his FRIDGE? The only way that could be any more awesome is if you stuck it down your bra.
Comment #20 by Heather O.February 9th, 2010 at 12:14 amNice.
I had some guy tell me that if only he could find a girl with my personality and my BFF’s body, she would be the perfect girl. I’m not sure who was more offended–me, for being told flat out that he thought I was ugly, or my BFF, who didn’t appreciate being called stupid.
Comment #21 by Heather O.February 9th, 2010 at 12:29 amTracy, last time I was dating I was 19 and in college, now I’m 34 and back in college. I think I’ll pass on the college dating scene this time around thanks!!
Comment #22 by ModdyFebruary 9th, 2010 at 8:33 amI still have a hard time picking up on social cue, but I was especially awkward as a teen and college student. Thus, what few dates I had were not so hot, resulting in general discomfort all ’round, and second dates that can be totaled on one hand. Most of mine can be chalked up to me not noticing that a guy actually was interested. My dear roommate at BYU accepted a date for me once; unfortunately she wasn’t really sure about the guy’s identity, just that he was in our ward. We ended up attending a science lecture. That would have really been a very cool date for me, except for the fact that my date thought the way to my heart was reciting the entire periodic table of elements- without looking at the huge poster on the wall. He then talked me into going to a stupid haunted house and I really can’t stand those things. Ugh.
I once, and only once, went for a walk with a guy who was stuck on the fact that I was from Alaska. After he asked if I would keep him warm at night if we got married (hello, slow down, only met a couple days ago) and kept trying to put some moves on me, I steered very clear of him. Ugh.
I also hated those girl-ask-guy dates. They usually turned out a horrible pity dates because the guys I did ask really were not interested in me. For this one when I was really interested in the guy, I was helping with dinner and some other girls were in charge of the games. I was never so embarrassed as when they decided to watch a movie instead and it ended up being one with nudity. I just know that the guy’s opinion of me was forever tainted. And being the awkward girl that I am, I was so shocked and frozen like a deer in headlights that I couldn’t move. Ugh, again.
Then there was the General Conference and then lunch with friends and family date. Turns out all the guy wanted to do was make out after lunch. Ugh, again. I really did love conference and sitting in the Assembly Hall though.
Then there was this guy who never asked me out the entire first year I knew him, then introduced me to his mother at the beginning of the next year, then asked me out for the first time. Um… I was seeing DH-to-be back home by that time.
Fortunately, DH is perfect for me. He has a certain “coolness” factor, owned a motorcycle, and yet didn’t care that I read “Scientific American” for fun. He never really asked me out the first time, just asked me where I lived, told me he was picking me up at a certain time, and told me to wear a dress. We have a running joke that the reason he got stuck with me forever is based solely on the fact that he actually called for a second date. He’s constantly warning young men of the dangers of asking for a second date.
Comment #23 by JCFebruary 9th, 2010 at 9:09 amI’ve tried writing five or six things to add, and they are all completely inappropriate! What a hussy I was in a former life.
Comment #24 by Tracy MFebruary 9th, 2010 at 10:10 amStrollerblader #19, that same thing happened to me once at church. A woman not my wife caressed my bum, only to then realize that I wasn’t her husband. Fortunately, we were good friends and both of the personality type not to freak out over it, but rather to just have a good laugh about the mix-up.
Comment #25 by Kevin BarneyFebruary 9th, 2010 at 10:14 amStrollerblader #19- you could’ve been like a former YW leader of mine who thought her husband was standing behind her and so gave him a nice squeeze in the front… turns out it was her husband’s brother.
Lots of awkward dates. One guy at BYU took me bowling, and I creamed him. He was so mad, I thought he might make me walk home. I was confused that I should’ve let him win? Good thing I didn’t really care for him.
The most awkward are when you really want to be on a date with someone else. I was on a date on the 4th of July with a nice guy, and we hiked the Y to see the fireworks. I couldn’t wait for them to be over, so I could go home and hang out with the guy in my ward that I really liked (who I married). The informal date after the real date was the best part of the night!
High school was painful. I went to Homecoming with a boy that I thought was soooo cute. Once again, being super shy in high school, I said maybe three words to him the entire night. I think I might’ve said “thank you” at the door. So make that 5 words?
Comment #26 by AndiFebruary 9th, 2010 at 10:56 amI’m so relieved that I’m not alone. I was a complete dork, doing dumb, dumb things.
On dating the 2nd time around, it’s better and it’s worse. 1-you’re not out to play games and so you weed out those that do. 2-they know you’re serious and if they can’t take it, they won’t bother you. The worse is that there are those that prey on divorced women. Keep your wits about you, pray hard, listen to the spirit and you’ll be alright. Hang in there. I found my Mr. Wonderful (for me) on a blind date of all things. Yeah, Father knew I couldn’t do it on my own.
Comment #27 by All8February 9th, 2010 at 3:32 pmTracy,
I’m with you. I was thinking of “stories” I could have added…but then nixed each one because they probably weren’t very appropriate or they just showed how much “baggage” I had back then. Sooo glad I’m not dating anymore!
Comment #28 by KamiFebruary 10th, 2010 at 3:59 pm