Mr. M, my 6 y.o. has had a really hard time with school this year. I’m not sure why, but he has had a hard time “conforming” to the school rules. As I’ve commented before, most of his troubles are just boy things, like playing super hero in the bathroom or down the halls, etc.
We have tried all sorts of sticks and carrots to get him on task, but none seem to work. We’ve tried taking privileges, he doesn’t care. We tried a point system and it worked for a few weeks, but it wasn’t consistent. He’d have an 8 point day followed by 2 point days. Then we tried to convert the points into cash (O.K. I’m cheap and it was only a penny a point). Again it worked, sort of, but we were never able to get 5 good days in a row. He’s been to the principal, he’s had to sit in other classes by himself, he’s even had a form of detention once.
Lately, he’s decided that when he’s done with school, school is done. So he asks his teacher if he can leave and when she says “no”, he finds an opportune time to bolt. Now he doesn’t really go anywhere except outside the room or to the school bus if it’s there waiting.
His teacher has tried every trick she knows as have we. I was so frustrated last week after parent-teacher conferences I didn’t know what to do. I sat down with Jr. Magoo and had a long heart to heart about behavior and consequences and how it was all his choice. This isn’t the first time, but I was so frustrated I actually cried while I was doing this.
The next Monday, he had a stellar day and his teacher was excited. I, however, was a sceptic since he’d had stellar days before and they were usually followed up with 3 really bad ones. So later that night I was talking to my DH who was trying to be positive, and Mr. M overheard me say to DH ” I’ll bet you a dollar he can’t be good two days in a row.” Mr. M pipes up “I’ll bet you a dollar Mom!” I agreed and we shook on the bet.
5 days later, I’m out $4.00 and he’s been good for 5 days in a row!
Now I know I’m going to Hell for this, but in my world, gambling is good