By Hollywood
“I’ll get her a cup.”
The director wrote the line into our junior high play so I’d have a token speaking part. I practiced saying it for over a month trying out different intonations, pacings and accompanying body language. It was going to be the best cup-offering ever known to Saxe Middle School.
But I wouldn’t say it. On either night of the show.
Nobody in the audience noticed since the line was unimportant. My parents had been prepped on the magnitude of my one glorious line but they had the sense not to make a big fuss about it. I pretended to be devastated at my mental slip. I’d blown my chance at Broadway! Could the world ever forgive me?
I’ve always wanted the limelight but somehow once I capture it I shrink with fear and inadequacy. In high school I decided to compete in a solo violin competition. My mom dropped me off at the competition on Saturday morning for my private performance for a panel of judges. I walked into the building, found the closest broom closet, and hid behind a garbage can until I’d missed my scheduled performance. Then I called my mom to pick me up and told her with an apologetic expression that I’d done my best but hadn’t won anything.
This pattern still holds true in my life. Boy, oh boy do I want to be noticed but could you please make all these people stop looking at me? I’m due with a baby in 7 weeks but can’t imagine having a baby shower and actually having to sit in a circle with all my friends looking expectantly at me. I prepare a talk for church, spending hours and hours creating an incredible discourse on life and the gospel but make sure to be scheduled last on the program. When I inevitably end up with two minutes to speak before the close of the meeting, I just look at the clock, shrug, bear my testimony and sit down.
But here I am. Mormon Mommy Wars wants a show and as their newest contributing blogger I’m dedicating myself to giving them what they want. Just don’t be surprised when you find me hiding in to corner every once and a while. Please just pretend you don’t see me.




Sorry, Sarah, we do see you. But no worries–no special effects required
Comment #1 by Heather O.February 17th, 2007 at 7:50 pmBoy do I know how you feel! I too feel that way. A LOT.
Comment #2 by AprilFebruary 17th, 2007 at 8:33 pmI can’t BELIEVE you hid in a closet until your violin time was up. That’s incredible. I fantasized about it whever I had to play for judges, but I never had the guts to hide. My mom would have found out for sure.
I’m so happy you’re here!!!
Comment #3 by The WizFebruary 17th, 2007 at 9:54 pmAHHHHH! i think i’m in love with you! i’m the SAME way, except i’ll prepare a talk for weeks, then call the missionaries to fill in for me or fake death.
Comment #4 by makakonaFebruary 17th, 2007 at 10:30 pmjust recently sang a solo in sac.mtg. mind started wandering during the second verse and had to back up and start a line over. maybe this is why i work with 8 year olds as my calling. they just think i’m weird.
Comment #5 by AlisonFebruary 18th, 2007 at 12:27 amHey - I like you guys! Maybe I’ll come out of the closet after all (no you sickos - not that way).
Makakona - I need to learn that “fake death” trick. Any tips?
Alison - what could your mind possibly be wandering to while you were singing a solo? Was there a hot guy in the congregation? Were you playing footsies with the 1st counselor? I think you have my opposite problem - maybe a little stage fright would do you some good!
Comment #6 by SarahFebruary 18th, 2007 at 6:06 amI’ve had my mind wander too at times. Sometimes when you’re REALLY comfortable with a song you start to daydream (yes, about that hot guy out there in the congregation). It was never the 1st couns. for me, that was my father! However, I always take my shoes off when I perform, so maybe people thought I WAS playing footsies with someone.
Comment #7 by NatalieFebruary 18th, 2007 at 11:15 amSorry, Sarah, I can’t relate at all - I loved the spotlight & still don’t mind getting up & singing in front of a churchful of people. (I even sang back-up for someone famous in highschool & loved every minute of it!) We’re really excited you’re here, Sarah! Welcome!
Great post! I can relate somewhat. I don’t especially crave the limelight. I just like communicating to people. But I hate socializing. I’d rather give a talk (or bare my soul on the internet) than have to mingle at a social function.
Comment #8 by Susan MFebruary 18th, 2007 at 1:44 pmWelcome, Sarah!! So glad to have you here with the rest of us loonies!
Comment #9 by Tracy MFebruary 18th, 2007 at 3:05 pmHey, who you callin’ looney?
Comment #10 by Heather O.February 18th, 2007 at 5:41 pmHey–
I hear you. I loved to sing until I had to do juries in the music program at Ricks, and then I stopped singing for two years. Performance anxiety is a killah.
Comment #11 by nosurfgirlFebruary 19th, 2007 at 12:33 amSarah - I’ve always loved your blog… I’m glad you’ll be posting here. I share your same anxiety. Ah, to be loved and adored … but only from a distance. Thanks.
Comment #12 by MelissaFebruary 19th, 2007 at 1:35 pmDefinitely adoring you from a distance. I have a feeling we’ll always be the friends who mean to meet but never do. Love your blog and additional posts here. Keep up the good work. You’re brilliant—don’t doubt it.
Comment #13 by StephFebruary 21st, 2007 at 1:53 pm