By The Wiz
Any woman will tell you that it is horrific to have a baby at the end of the summer. The heat, the heat, and oh yeah, the heat. Well, I had a baby at the end of one of the hottest summers on record. (And yes, that makes me better than all of you, in case you were wondering.)
But I survived, and the purpose of this post is to generate discussion on whether or not I should put him in school right when he’s only been 5 for a week, or wait a year, and put him in when he’s 6. I’m going to be sexist here, and say if it was a girl, I wouldn’t even think about it, just put her right in kindergarten. But coordination and sports are (generally! I’m speaking generally!) more important to boys, and driving and dating is harder for a guy to wait until his junior year, and actually, the kicker for me, is the mission.
You see, I really think it’s valuable for a man to have at least some college before his mission. And if I put him in school right when he’s 5, he’ll have a full year after he graduates, and have some more experience to take to the world. Of course, his schooling will have to take a break, but that’s not uncommon for Mormon men. But if I wait, and give him the benefit of being bigger, older, and more coordinated (hopefully) throughout his schooling, then he’ll be nineteen shortly after he graduates, and off he’ll go! (Taking agency into consideration, of course. There’s no guarantee that my son will want to go on a mission, but hey, I’ve got to be positive, right?)
My son has yet to turn two, so I know stressing about this now can only take years off my life, but I do think about it quite a bit, and ask everybody I know who had a boy in the summer - or early fall - what decision they made and why they made it. Was the kid so ready for school that you were going to pummel him if he stayed home another year? Did not having to worry about college applications right away, knowing the mission was coming first, help or hurt? And how did you know what to do? Of course it’s kid specific, but really, what is the deciding factor here?