Am I the only one who has a hard time telling the hair cut person what I want when I go in to get a haircut?  I just say ‘whatever’ because I have an inner fear that if I say ‘I want x,y, and z’ they will be judging me that clearly I have no clue what would look best.  They have haircutting Greatness that I don’t have.  I do not want to offend this Greatness.  It gives them Power.  Power to shape my look for good or for evil.

I’ve had hair people tell me my hairline is really low, my hairline is really high, and they have no ends of differing opinions on where it should hit my ear or how it should look in the back.  Thus I have no confidence in telling them how to cut it, because if I tell them, “I’ve been told it looks good when it’s cut like this”, most of the time they’ll just say “Who told you that?  That’s completely wrong.”  And I yield. I yield to their Greatness, and sometimes it works, and sometimes it does not. But I never tell them.  I never say ‘Wow, what a bad cut.  You suck at your job.’ even if I go home and cry afterwards.

If I know the haircut person, I’m braver and more honest. But I’m new here, don’t know anyone, and my kids and I REALLY needed a haircut.  (If you remember, I don’t cut my kid’s hair myself.)  So I walked in and got a cut.  After mumbling about what kind of cut to give my son, (I literally ended up saying - I don’t know!  Just make him cute without buzzing it!) I sat down, and she said ‘you probably don’t know what you want, either.’  And she was right. 

She saw into my inner soul, and discovered I have very few opinions on how the back of my hair looks, or where the sides should hit.  I mostly just wanted to look less crappy.  And so she offered her many opinions on how I should get it cut, and went into precise detail about the back, and I nodded and smiled like I was listening when she told me if I ever get it cut in a certain way, it’ll look really bad, but of course she would cut it any way I want.  I yielded.  You see, she has the Greatness.  I just have the hair.

I need Hair Salon Confidence.  I also need to know how much to tlp.  Thanks for listening.