By The Wiz
Guest Post by kadusey
Dear MormonMommyWars writers and readers,
You’re all stunningly brilliant and wise, so I figured I’d ask for some advice. I’m in my second year of marriage and fourteenth week of pregnancy, and I’ve decided its finally time to get a handle on this whole wifeliness and mommyhood thing. DH and I are trying hard to make it so that I can stay at home and take care of him and myself and baby-to-be, but I need to start doing some work so that I can stop feeling guilty about being here while DH is off making money (the guilt comes even though I know that working is not a very good option for me currently, physically or emotionally). But being relatively new at all of this, I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed, and have a huge list of questions that I don’t really know who else to ask for advice on.
Things I’d really like some general tips about how you manage to do them regularly without it taking up huge amounts of time and energy (also, any tips on staying motivated would be great):
Cleaning the darn bathrooms and Dirty Man Mess
Regular spiritual family nourishment
Things I’d love some specific tips and advice about because how I’m doing things currently is not really ideal:
Cooking very cheap, very healthy, yet still tasty meals for two adults and a fetus
Keeping pregnancy hormones from completely wrecking your emotional state whenever the whim strikes them
Pregnant exercise (we live in AZ where it’s still too hot to walk outside, too cold now to swim outside, and walking up the stairs in my house exhausts me for a couple hours)
Making lunches for a very hungry yet trying-to-diet hubby
Lastly, what stuff do you actually need to have for a baby? Is a bassinet, convertible crib, dresser/changing table, carseat/stroller combo, etc, etc, actually necessary? What products have you liked that were cheap yet great? What’s worth it to save up for and spend a little extra money on? I figure at the very barest of minimums I’m going to be needing a crib, some clothes, diapers, and a carseat. What are the things you’ve found that you absolutely can’t live without? We’re on a really tight budget right now, so cheap is good, yet I’d prefer to not have to resort to sticking my child in a dresser drawer at bedtime like my parents did with my oldest sister.
I think that about covers it all.
If I end up being so lucky to get advice from any of you about any of this, I will be exceedingly grateful and may end up being a little less worried about my chances of complete failure at being a stay-at-home wife and mommy. And who knows, maybe if I get some absolutely amazing advice, then you’ll be mentioned in my memoirs one day when I’m fabulously rich and famous (which will undoubtedly occur after that point in the future when people suddenly realize that they should start paying me money just for being myself and doing the things I enjoy doing). You know, someday. It could happen.
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