By Heather O.
This was originally posted Dec 2006, but it had such a positive response, we are bringing it out again. Let us know what you gave your child’s teacher.
It’s that time again–the time to pick out the teacher gift. I’ve only had to do this twice, and I think I blew it the first time. I gave J’s preschool teacher a mug with pencils and tea/hot chocolate in it, all wrapped up cute with cellophane and a ribbon, and even a tag. This was all packaged for me already when I bought it, which made it a double bonus. But I was told later by somebody in the know that teachers hate gifts like that. Most teachers have mugs and ornaments with kids’ art coming out the wazoo.
But teacher gifts are tricky, because you don’t want to spend too much for fear of looking extravagant, and you don’t want to spend too little for fear of looking like a cheapskate, so the whole thing leaves me a little befuddled and confused.
So I know there are a lot of teachers and former teachers out there who read this blog, and I coming to you, mug humbly in hand, and asking you, What do you want for Christmas?
I eagerly await your replies.
UPDATE: This year, I gave my son’s teacher a gift certificate to Starbucks. It even came in a cute little stocking. No muss, no fuss. If she doesn’t drink coffee, there are some excellent pastries to nosh.




We usually do cinnamon rolls or cookies and gift cards. The trouble I have is my middle son. He has autism and so not only does he have a teacher, there are also 4 aides in the class, an autism consultant, a speech therapist, occupational therapist and a myriad of other people. Usually I just get a gift card (from Barnes and Noble this year) for the teachers and food for the aides and therapists… I can’t afford to get something for each of them… is that bad?? :S
Comment #1 by MelissaDecember 18th, 2007 at 7:26 amI LOVED gift cards to Barnes and Noble, because what teacher doesn’t love books and want the latest and greatest that come out? If it’s too much for you to get on your own, I often had kids whose moms were friends who would go in on it together so they could get one for more than they’d do alone. You’ll never go wrong with a gift card like that!
Comment #2 by StarababaDecember 18th, 2007 at 7:26 amThis year, we’re giving the sixth grade teacher a beaded long necklace, intended as a lanyard for her ID tag. This was dd’s idea and I thought it was a great. Something (hopefully) useful and unique. As a teacher myself, I loved getting things to use in my classroom (dry erase markers, etc.).
Comment #3 by AhnaDecember 18th, 2007 at 7:48 amGift cards are nice. I usually just write a heartfelt thank you/Christmas card. They seem to really appreciate them. Last year’s teacher said he got all teary when he read my end of the year card. I’m aiming higher this year: REAL tears. Oh yeah…
Also, stickers and other things that they give away to the kids are good, since they usually buy those themselves.
Comment #4 by traceyDecember 18th, 2007 at 8:08 amMy son’s 1st grade teacher is due in Feb. with her first (a girl) I thought that I’d make a recieving blanket, you know the kind, flannel on both sides cute stitching around the edge(I’ve made a ton of these for family, friends, myself and everyone I’ve given them to said they loved them). I mentioned it to someone at church and she said she thought that was too personal. Is she right, or am I okay in making and giving this to his teacher?
Comment #5 by moddyDecember 18th, 2007 at 8:22 amI gave these to the kid’s teachers a week early this year. Along with a handmade card, an ornament and a note from my child. I know it’s practical, but kind of cute. Who can’t use a little lift during the chores. Too personal, too practical?
In past years we’ve given Panera gift cards; Barnes & Noble gift cards with tiny Godiva chocolate boxes in a book bag; gift certificates for Cold Stone; movie rental gift cards with movie candy and popcorn; gift baskets from Stonewall Kitchen including a reusable basket and various baking mixes and sauces; small Smith & Hawken watering cans (note: thanks for helping me grow); Yankee Candle Room Sprays (for aides); Ballard monogrammed lunch bag with a pretty cloth napkin, french lemonade and nice crackers; and knit scarves with an ornament.
Geesh I didn’t realize I’d given so many teacher’s gifts already. I guess with two kids in school now and including the preschool years at Christmas and end-of-year, it adds up. I typically limit the amount to $20 with the exception of the Ballard Bag (that was an outstanding teacher).
Oh, and one of my favorite gifts. Last year I was a room mother and we had some remaining funds which we used to make an album at Snapfish. It was an end-of-year gift so I went in for two recess times when the teacher wasn’t on duty and snapped pictures of each student. Then when it was printed I went in and had each student sign their page. I think the teacher genuinely loved it. It was only about $20, and doesn’t take up too much space.
Wow, sorry for the super long comment. Hopefully some of these ideas are useful and hopefully the teacher’s truly enjoyed them. No mugs and just a little tchotchke!?!
Comment #6 by lainakayDecember 18th, 2007 at 8:59 amAre you kidding? I was a teacher and NEVER hated anything that a student or parent gave me for Christmas. No matter how many mugs or cutesie desk thingies I got I loved and appreciated each one and the time and effort that went into them.
The BEST present I got was a HUGE mug that is great for filling with 10 gallons (not quite) of hot chocolate so I can drink it until I am sick!! It is NASCAR, and I never knew that I would like it until I got it
It is totally different than anything I would pick out.
*I never ate homemade treats from students or parents, there is just too many risks involved, but I appreciated the effort and the sweet sentiments.
Comment #7 by AnnieDecember 18th, 2007 at 9:07 amMy son has many special needs, and consequently has a lot of doctors, teachers, therapists, and nurses that work with him. I got them all a framed photo of him. The frames were inexpensive at Walmart, and his nurses told me how much they love having pictures of their kids. To the teachers and therapists we work with the most, I also got them some chocolate. If chocolate is wrong, I don’t wanna be right!
Comment #8 by AndreaDecember 18th, 2007 at 9:29 amI am a rookie teacher-gifter, so no guarantees here. A friend recommended the present I purchased this year and I hope she knows what she’s talking about. At Target on one of the endcaps near the artificial plants they have pretty little Smith and Hawkin urns with an Amaryllis bulb in them and the potting soil to plant them. They are around nine bucks (on sale a couple weeks ago–sorry too late). I bought one for myself as well and it’s still alive so far. Miracle.
Comment #9 by Carolina MamaDecember 18th, 2007 at 9:30 amI have little experience with teacher gifts, being a homeschooler, but I did work at a school for a while, so I’ve received them! I would probably go with either a heartfelt thank-you note (tight budget) or with something for the classroom, like a gift card to the bookstore or science equipment etc. according to the teacher’s wishes.
Comment #10 by dangermomDecember 18th, 2007 at 9:31 amYou NEVER ate homemade goodies????? My bubble is seriously bursting…. I just made dozens of little pumpkin breads and lemon cakes for all my kids many teachers…. I’m crushed….
Comment #11 by claireDecember 18th, 2007 at 9:41 amAs a teacher, it’s nice to receive anything:) I usually regift boxes of cookies or take them to parties, etc. If you really like me, help me live longer! Don’t give me large quantities of bad-for-me stuff.
To my son’s violin teacher, we gave a package of our homemade pancake whole wheat pancake mix and a card that he drew and wrote in. She loved it (or if she didn’t, she sure said all the right things).
Comment #12 by Mrs MDecember 18th, 2007 at 10:23 amChiming in here with the sentiments on B&N or teacher supply type gift cards or things for specific use in the classroom and no home made food gifts.
Unless I am your personal friend and have been to your kitchen, I would say thank you, write you a note and tell you how delicious it was and then throw it away. Sorry, but I have seen too many funky home kitchens or folks with funky habits.
i.e. an extremely wealthy gal with an immaculate home/kitchen who REFUSES to wash her hands after using the bathroom because her husband is a dr. and she feels we are overly sensitive about hygiene in the U.S. The appearance doesn’t match her hygiene. gack! Sorry, that bothers me.
Comment #13 by s'meeDecember 18th, 2007 at 10:50 amI always wondered about the homemade stuff too. I figure people don’t eat it b/c they don’t really know where it came from… KWIM? So I don’t want to waste my time and effort.
I do the Starbucks card thing (next year I might do Barnes and Noble). I have heard over and over from teachers how much they appreciate a note. That seems to be the one thing you should do…even if you don’t do a gift. We usually end up with one parent emailing the rest saying they will get a gift card for anyone that wants to contribute.. I usually try to do something that involves my child, so we do a smaller gift card (they she helps pay for) and decorates the thank you letter….. great ideas though…
Comment #14 by bekDecember 18th, 2007 at 11:01 amMy kids aren’t in school yet. But I don’t remember giving teachers gifts when I was in school.
Is this really necessary, or is this just a nice thing that SOME parents do?
I only ask because the way you all are talking about it makes me thing that it’s required.
Comment #15 by HugeDecember 18th, 2007 at 11:54 amBook store gift cards are good b/c everything I buy is used in the classroom (read aloud books, or books for the kids to read independently.) However, if you purchase from Scholastic when your kid brings them home, then you are already contributing to this classroom stash.
My favourite gifts have been the thank you notes that kids and parents have written to me, and the hand made things I have gotten. I work now in a school where the parents simply don’t have the money to buy me anything unless their child goes without something. Because of this, I have a lot of kids who have, all on their own, written me letters and cards. I LOVE THAT! Those are the things I keep.
I will agree with those who said they don’t eat treats from kids. Sorry, but it just can’t be trusted. If I know the mom well, and I think the kid is a clean kid who comes from a clean home, then I will consider it. Especially if it is chocolate.
Boxes of chocolate are actually good. I heard a story once (urban legend??) of a teacher who was fed brownies laced with marijuana. Now I stay clear of homemade treats.
Comment #16 by LisaDecember 18th, 2007 at 12:19 pmThis year I made a personalized clipboard for each teacher and then I used my pampered chef can opener, opened the bottom of a large can of fruit (with the pop top), washed it out & filled it with glue, chalk, stickers & candy & then I glued the bottom back on so that the teacher has to pop the top to get the goodies out. And of course I decorated the can so that she didn’t think she was getting fruit cocktail!
Comment #17 by HRHDecember 18th, 2007 at 1:33 pmAre you friends with any other moms in the class? Could you all pitch in for a spa treatment?
That would be a REAL treat.
No mugs….
Comment #18 by KageDecember 18th, 2007 at 2:03 pmI always give teachers a Willow Tree, Love of Learning or Wisdom.
Comment #19 by DanaDecember 18th, 2007 at 6:08 pm[…] Mormon Mommy Wars: From the archives - Teacher’s presents - An ongoing discussion about what to give teachers for the holidays. Also check out last year’s post: Teachers, what do you want for Christmas? […]
Pingback #20 by The DHX: The Doughtie Houses Exchange » Blog Archive » Links for Wednesday, December 19December 19th, 2007 at 6:20 amLast year I gave my son’s teacher a couple of books that our son liked and some music cds that she could use in class.
Comment #21 by roster007December 19th, 2007 at 7:48 amThis year I was extra thankful for my son and daughter’s teachers and I knitted and crochet scarves for them.
My son’s teacher is a man this year (rare!) and he said that his wife crochet’s scarves but has never crocheted one for him… he was thankful for the scarf we gave him because it’s cold being on duty on the playground in the morning.
I’m also curious about if it is expected to give teachers gifts. My parents never sent any gifts with me for my teachers, and I don’t recall any of my teachers ever receiving more than a few gifts from students in my classes.
Comment #22 by kaduseyDecember 19th, 2007 at 1:05 pmGifts to teachers aren’t required or even expected. At least when I was teaching I didn’t expect it, but then, I taught high school. sooo. Gift cards are awesome, and hand written thank you notes from the kids. Hand made gifts would be great as well. While I appreciated every gift I recieved from a student, there is only so much room in the cupboard for coffee mugs.
Comment #23 by TrixieDecember 19th, 2007 at 1:55 pmI have been teaching for 6 years and the best presents are cards kids make. Amen on the food things…right into the garbage. Cards and/or presents are a nice way of saying thanks to a thankless job. Teachers are with your kids most of their waking hours Monday -Friday and it’s nice to tell their teachers how much you appreciate what they do…even if it’s just a card. Just my two cents (and 6 years)…take it for what it’s worth
Comment #24 by MomandTeacherDecember 19th, 2007 at 2:01 pmi taught for 10 years, mostly in the low SES neighborhoods. i always got crazy gifts (including a filthy, drooled on teddy bear, that was undoubtedly stolen from a younger sibling’s crib!), and i think what happens is that the kids feel like they want to get you something– ANYTHING– so you know they love you. i don’t think gifts are required (i certainly never received a gift from every single kid, every single year, and i honestly didn’t give it a second thought)(oh, except for when report card time rolled around– JUST KIDDING!!), BUT (do you love my run-on sentences… clearly i’m no longer teaching!!) I LOVED getting gift cards– even for $5. $5 will get me a hot chocolate from starbucks, or a magazine from BN, or whatever… and i agree with the other comments on homemade food; no matter how deeeelish it might look, i couldn’t eat it for fear of the cat having been on the counter while stirring the batter….
Comment #25 by erinDecember 19th, 2007 at 3:38 pmI usually try to find out what the teacher needs for the classroom. Often I’ve found that if you tell them why you are asking then they will say they don’t need anything, but there are more subtle ways to find out.
For example, a few weeks ago I was volunteering in my sons first grade classroom and noticed that there were very few sharpened pencils. After a while she asked one student to take a handful of pencils and take them across the hall to sharpen since hers was worn out.
So guess what she got for Christmas? It might not be what she WANTED, but it did help her out and I know my money was not wasted.
I have also bought learning games, manipulative’s, art supplies, etc.
Comment #26 by shelllyDecember 20th, 2007 at 11:25 amThis makes me so glad I’m planning on homeschooling. I didn’t even know you were supposed to give gifts to teachers!
Comment #27 by FirebyrdDecember 20th, 2007 at 12:24 pmI’ve been teaching high school for nine years in Orange County, CA (in case context here means anything).
Re homemade treats: I go case by case on this one. If I trust the kid (no marijuana-laced brownies, thanks) and the food looks clean and fresh, then sure, why not? Especially cookies that are obviously the slice and bake kind, or a loaf of banana bread. I’ve never once gotten sick, and if there was a little cat hair in anything I ate, well, what I don’t know won’t hurt me.
The hygeine hang-up gets me a little. One of my fellow-teachers has a blanket no-eating-homemade-treats rule , and she is very particular about germs, sanitation, etc. But she is also the same woman who, because her rear end is just too precious and clean to sit on the school toilet seat (even with a fresh disposable cover on it), squats over the seat and leaves it sprayed with pee. No amount of hand-washing is sufficient penitence for a sin like that!
I wash my hands several times a day, and after each visit to the restroom, and I always wash my hands (and the kitchen counter) before preparing or eating food, BUT… I think that those who are the most fussy are sometimes also the most messy. You take no more risk eating a student’s homemade brownie than you do eating in a restaurant. And in fact, there is probably less risk, as there is less equipment to maintain/keep clean. I’ve never once gotten ill from a student’s homemade treat, but three times I have gotten ill from restaurant food (reputable, national chains).
Re other gifts: I, too, am on mug overload, however I am never disappointed to receive one! If it’s cute and filled with chocolate, who can complain? And if the mug is extra beautiful (I have gotten and loved some truly gorgeous Christmas mugs) then it is even more appreciated.
As for gift cards, that’s all fine and good, but I already have more Starbucks cards than I can possibly use in a year (I have a few hundred dollars’ worth, unused). I keep saying I am going to go there and gorge myself on muffins and hot chocolate, but I haven’t quite gotten around to it.
For a female teacher, gifts and gift cards from Bath and Body Works are a safe bet. And for either sex, you can’t go wrong with a movie theater gift card.
The simple and sincere thank-you card is appreciated, too, since really, that is the main reason teachers enjoy getting gifts. Honestly, if I get a plate of nasty-looking stale brownies that I end up trashing, there is still a warm feeling just knowing that the student or parent thought to give me something.
Comment #28 by TeacherDecember 20th, 2007 at 8:07 pmMy daughter gave cans of hot chocolate and giant chocolate bars….she is only 3. Hope the teachers didn’t hate it - I let her pick out the treats herself. I planned on waiting until the end of the year for the thank yous. Is that bad???
Comment #29 by RubiaDecember 20th, 2007 at 10:16 pmI feel sick thinking that my home canned salsa might have gone straight to the trash… I guess I’ll start giving those only to people who know my family well.
Comment #30 by Sara RDecember 21st, 2007 at 6:51 pmBetter late than never, right? I teach at the HS level now– much different than my 6 yrs in 2nd grade. Everyone forgets the HS teach’s!
But, I must say I’ve always loved the gift certs– to anywhere. This year I received a couple “Spend it in the ‘Root” GC’s and they are fabulous! The chamber did them, and are good at about 20 stores in our valley.
And, as always– it’s the thought that counts. I had a couple of students bring me a plate of cookies he made in foods- knowing my sons has loads of allergies, he even went above and beyond to make some up that I could share with my family.
That meant the world to me, and to my 9 yr old.
Comment #31 by MelDecember 23rd, 2007 at 4:07 pmHuh. It never occurred to me to suspect the edibility of the goodies I’ve been given as a teacher.
I’ve always been glad for whatever gifts I get, and if you don’t give gifts to your child’s teacher, don’t sweat it. It is definitely NOT a requirement.
Comment #32 by tisheliDecember 31st, 2007 at 12:09 pm